By BeforeItWasCool - 30/09/2012 09:30 - United Kingdom
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BeforeItWasCool
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Wow this seems to have been misinterpreted! It was unplanned, I was entirely surprised by it. We hadn't planned on kids- if it had been positive it would have been an accident. I was just quite happy to have such a nice surprise even if it did turn out to be negative. I was quite disappointed it was negative, not because I've been secretly trying to get pregnant, but because I was pleasantly surprised. It just seems my fiancé was a little too enthusiastic about the negative result.
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OP are you trying to set up ur relationships to fail? it seems ur fiancée doesn't want kids and I'm sure you guys can wait till ur both comfortable. or if he never wants kids u may want to break it off since it seems u want kids. my husband and I definitly want kids and I wouldn't go behind his back to have one. we have to wait though till we both have jobs and the insurance to cover having a baby. don't be so selfish to bring a child in this world when the father may not want it. what kind of kid wants to know their father never wanted them?
you're* and how is she an idiot?
1kiki81
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Might wanna rethink that marriage
Hoping for a baby with an unwilling potential father? You just dodged a bullet.
What a jerk! That's really crappy how he reacted upon it. Instead of acting like a grown man he acted like a child. I think it's time for you both to have a talk and see what page your both on so he can get his head out of his ass.
Shadow_Phantom
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You fiancé doesn't want kids... don't force him into it. FYL, but YDI.
rebel_belle1974
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maybe he's not mature enough yet, most men aren't.
j3ebrules
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If you aren't yet married to him AND aren't on the same page about having a kid right now, I would say you really aren't ready.
It's actually quite selfish to assume it would be okay to get orenant ( possibly on purpose) without even consulting your fiancée. If your relationship is strong, as you've claimed it is, then discuss your feelings and your plans with him. Mature people make better parents.
Evilpirate
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Stop ruining the man's happiness, and give him a high-5.
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If he's your fiancé for four years, that means he's still not ready to commit. A baby would probably force him to marry you, something he's been avoiding for years.
^Nailed it. From the wording of the FML, it seems like OP wants to get pregnant without her fiancee's consent. And if that's true, what the hell is wrong with you OP?! Just because you have a "strong relationship" doesn't mean he wants kids. Furthermore, if he doesn't want kids and you do, do NOT get married to him. Those irreconcilable differences.