By BeforeItWasCool - 30/09/2012 09:30 - United Kingdom
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BeforeItWasCool
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Wow this seems to have been misinterpreted! It was unplanned, I was entirely surprised by it. We hadn't planned on kids- if it had been positive it would have been an accident. I was just quite happy to have such a nice surprise even if it did turn out to be negative. I was quite disappointed it was negative, not because I've been secretly trying to get pregnant, but because I was pleasantly surprised. It just seems my fiancé was a little too enthusiastic about the negative result.
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BeforeItWasCool
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Wow this seems to have been misinterpreted! It was unplanned, I was entirely surprised by it. We hadn't planned on kids- if it had been positive it would have been an accident. I was just quite happy to have such a nice surprise even if it did turn out to be negative. I was quite disappointed it was negative, not because I've been secretly trying to get pregnant, but because I was pleasantly surprised. It just seems my fiancé was a little too enthusiastic about the negative result.
I dont think she feels too bad about either one
splinteredApple
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That didn't clear up anything.
I don't really blame him for not being ready to be a dad. I don't know how old you are OP, but if you're high school or college sweethearts and possibly only in your early 20s then seriously wait to bring kids into this world. Find jobs you both love, travel the world, live your life before too many things tie you down.
I don't really blame him for not being ready to be a dad. I don't know how old you are OP, but if you're high school or college sweethearts and possibly only in your early 20s then seriously wait to bring kids into this world. Find jobs you both love, travel the world, live your life before too many things tie you down.
guess he doesn't like kids then lol
I think you guys should probably have a wee chat, don't you?
bstudds
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aww man! the baby bandaid fixes everything!
bstudds
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Obviously, I was being sarcastic.
What we have here is failure to communicate
Some men you just can't reach.
ElishaisSexy2016
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I bet he felt like an ass...
No I think she feels like an ass
Considering the fact that you both want different things, Maybe it's time to find someone else or confront him. Neither one of you should have to suffer from each others wants and needs.
Just because he doesn't want to have a child right now doesn't mean he never wants to have one. It never said how old they are, just that they have been together for four years. It's best to talk to him about it and find out what he wants too. Maybe he's focusing on school or work right now and doesn't think he can deal with a child.
Sometimes it's best to try and wait until you both want the child. Try talking to him and finding out why he doesn't want a child yet. I hope you two can work it out, and that one day you're able to get pregnant.
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If he's your fiancé for four years, that means he's still not ready to commit. A baby would probably force him to marry you, something he's been avoiding for years.
^Nailed it. From the wording of the FML, it seems like OP wants to get pregnant without her fiancee's consent. And if that's true, what the hell is wrong with you OP?! Just because you have a "strong relationship" doesn't mean he wants kids. Furthermore, if he doesn't want kids and you do, do NOT get married to him. Those irreconcilable differences.