Well good for you. Like I said, I don't fake them anymore, and I do communicate to him that I'm fine not climaxing sometimes, but that doesn't make him feel a lot better about it just because it's been engrained in him that if you don't make the girl ******, than you aren't good in bed. I'm his first intimate partner, so he just doesn't have the experience to really know that it's seriously okay if I don't every time. I also can't ****** at all from penetration, so it takes extra effort on his part either from fingering or oral to make me cum. So when I finally realize that it's not going to happen that time and tell him that, he feels like he just wasted a lot of effort even though it felt good for me the whole time. I'm just saying I understand why some women are compelled to fake it. I sometimes feel self conscious too as if there's something wrong with me that I can't cum every time.

#76, don't ever feel self conscious about it! Not everyone's body works the same way and you should never feel like there is something wrong just because you can't ****** like a machine gun. I know that it's hard to break the messages ingrained in our minds by society, but your partner will figure it out eventually and you will both be satisfied when that happens! Orgasms aren't the end all be all of sex. In fact I remember reading that for women, the entire time leading up to the ****** is often the most pleasurable part of sex. Maybe telling him something like that (or even showing him some papers on it) will help him realize that he hasn't "wasted" his effort on you.

My fiancé tries extremely hard to get me to ******, but he just can't. He can be copying my movements and it still won't get me off. I don't typically fake orgasms, because we found ways around it, but every once in a while, when things just don't go the way they're supposed to... It's easier to fake than to "give up" and tell him he's not pleasing me like I need him to. It's also much nicer. He tries hard and feels bad about not being able to... So I don't see the need in kicking him while he's down.

I had to reread this as at first I thought you confessed to liking corn and then started making fake ****** sounds.

Intoxication seems to make people do the darnest things!

#82: That's a copout. I get that you don't want to hurt your boyfriend's feelings, but if I were in his place I can guarantee I'd be a lot more hurt by your dishonesty.

It doesn't happen very often. Maybe twice a year. Sometimes things don't go right even when we're both trying really hard. Usually I tell him he can finish whenever he wants to, but sometimes it's just easier. I guess it sounds kind of dumb, even to me, but... Sometimes I just like giving him a little ego boost. Kind of like an A for effort, I suppose.

76. my body works the same way. so that's no excuse. and as far as I can tell most women cannot ****** from penetration alone.

Hahaha... Corn...

Ladies, quit faking your orgasms.. MAKE HIM WORK FOR IT!!