Trans Rights, LGBTQIA+ and Miscellaneous: Today, I was at a gay bar and asking a really convincing drag...

By thatwasmiz - 08/04/2009 06:38 - United States

Today, I was at a gay bar and asking a really convincing drag queen about her daily routine. I asked how she tucked her penis in. She responded, "Um, I'm a woman." I said, "Oh I'm sorry, are you pre-op or post-op?" She said, "No, I always have been and always will be a woman, asshole." FML

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By Noname - 18/03/2009 01:24 - United States

Today, while I was out to eat, I was approached by the restaurant manager. He told me that while he respected my personal choices, his patrons didn't feel comfortable with someone who used to be a man using the women's restroom. He thought I was a transsexual. I am a naturally-born female. FML

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By imafunguy - 05/10/2012 00:28 - United States

Today, I asked a girl out. She replied, "Sorry, I'm suddenly a lesbian." FML

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By Anonymous - 26/09/2024 19:00

Today, I steeled my nerve, gritted my teeth, pulled my finger out, and asked our new coworker on a date. He looked at me weird, then said those four words, “But I’m not gay.” Five weeks we’ve worked together and all that time he thought I was a man. I’m a woman, born a woman, with a vagina. FML

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By Anonymous - 03/09/2021 16:59

Today, my doctor told me to take off my pants so she could do a checkup. When I took them off, she gasped. When I asked what was wrong, she said she was expecting something else. She thought I was a dude. FML

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By Anonymous - 15/09/2013 07:53 - United States - Carbondale

Today, I was complimented by a stranger, who said I looked great in my outfit. I thanked her, and she immediately gave me a fist-bump. I stared curiously, and she explained: she was arguing with her friends about whether I'm a man or a woman. The pitch of my voice was the answer. FML

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By Anonymous - 04/11/2010 09:18 - United States

Today, I had a job interview. When I got there, the lady interviewing me shook my hand and said, 'Hello, I'm gay.' I found this strange and I didn't know what to say, so I stated, 'Aw, it's OK, I support you.' She looked pretty offended, and I realized why when I found out that her name was Gaye. FML

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By what - 26/11/2010 19:17 - United States

Today, while shopping, a few giggling girls came up to me and asked why I was wearing a dress in public. Highly confused, I didn't answer. When they walked away laughing, I realized they thought I was a man. I'm a woman. FML

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By lookslikeaboyapparently - 19/10/2010 21:23 - United Kingdom

Today, a little girl came up to me and asked, "Are you a boy or a girl?" I said, "I'm a girl of course!" She walked away, looking dazed and saying, "Whoa." FML

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By Anonymous - 24/08/2010 05:52 - United States

Today, I was working at my job as a cashier, checking out an elderly woman's groceries. She was very nice, and we chatted for a couple minutes. Once she had paid, she leaned close to me and said, very politely, "I'm so so sorry that I mistook you for a girl at first, young man." I AM a girl. FML

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By Eternal_Babyface - 08/11/2015 17:14 - United States

Today, I was talking to a friend and bemoaning the fact that my new coworkers keep mixing up my gender. She looked at me critically and said, "Yeah, until you can grow a decent beard, people are going to keep thinking you're an intern or a butch lesbian." FML

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jojo1031 0

Wednesday 8 April 2009 16:21

Aren't those extremely personal questions to be asking? Could we get a transgender/transvestite to weigh in on this discussion?

Ncc_Tardis 0

Wednesday 8 April 2009 16:19

I clicked YDI, then FML. It's a bit of both, I'vegottaa say, some of them can be pretty damn convincing!

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judgeymcjudge 0

Wednesday 8 April 2009 17:31

*wonders if mlleangelique is someone I know...* #26 "Being intolerant of other people's mistakes is just as closed-minded, you know." Word!

prinnygirl 0

Wednesday 8 April 2009 17:31

It's kinda like going up to a lady and asking her when she's due only to find out she's not pregnant. It's not so much what you asked that was offensive, but the fact that you made an (incorrect) assumption and also how you worded your question. First you assumed she was trans. Ok - it was a gay bar, so that happens. but you could have politely brought the issue up with a question like "So how long have you been doing drag?" or something. If she's open about it and tells you she's trans, then it's OK to ask her about the daily routine. If she's not opening up about the gender issue, then it would be better to just be polite and stop prying. To just ask someone - anyone - that you don't really know very well a question that involves what's between their legs the way you did is just rude. If you walked up to a girl in a straight bar and asked, "so when was your last period" you would prolly be lucky to walk out alive. Just because someone is trans doesn't mean you automatically have permission to ask about their privates. So yes - YDI.

alex_vik 0

Wednesday 8 April 2009 17:33

Maybe they're like that one Geman teenage boy who always thought they were really a woman even though they had a penis?

judgeymcjudge 0

Wednesday 8 April 2009 17:34

#34 I'm sorry, I just have to ask. How would "So how long have you been doing drag?" have offended this woman less?! :P

amaranthine_fml 0

Wednesday 8 April 2009 17:35

#22, im a woman, and my index finger is shorter than my ring finger. that's a ridiculous way to judge a person #27 is right though. never assume. especially at a gay bar

vt_mruhlin 0

Wednesday 8 April 2009 17:42

Generally I live by a rule that you should know a person at least sort of well before you start asking about their penis.

urrka 0

Wednesday 8 April 2009 17:46

Not your fault... if you're in a gay bar, it's natural to assume she's a queen. Plus, they're usually REALLY convincing and REALLY pretty, so she should feel complimented!

Atropos_fml 0

Wednesday 8 April 2009 18:00

#22, if the one finger (ring/index) is noticeably longer than the other finger, the person has more testosterone in his or her body. If they are relatively the same length, there is less testosterone. But this does not necessarily determine if the person is male or female. And what's wrong with women going to gay bars?

wordly 0

Wednesday 8 April 2009 18:12

The word is transwoman, not drag queen. Drag queens dress up as women for fun/show but identify as men, whereas transwomen actually identify as women everyday.