I understand completely what you mean about processing time for emotions. My mom never has gotten excited over much, really. I mean, nothing to do with me. She's said, "I'm proud" a few times I think, but hasn't ever given me energy that made me feel the pride. Does that make sense? Or does that make me seem like I'm entitled? xD It's usually just a straight face, "Well that's good, then." or a "good to hear". What annoys me the most, and a couple have pointed this out perfectly, is that the only times she does get excited is through media because then my accomplishments magically become about her. She gets all of my "congratulations" and all this praise as though my talents or hard work were only possible because of her. I'm not saying I'm demanding to get the attention myself, I didn't even tell many people, I just don't like that she acts like a loving mother for the wrong reasons. It feels like she puts a mask on for all of our friends and family. And let me tell you, she doesn't just stop at my achievements, she shares EVERYTHING she can. For goodness sake's, she posted about my upcoming colonoscopy to Facebook! I didn't even know until I got a random text from a friend asking me when my appointment was. I don't even know what possessed her to think "Daughter is getting a tube shoved up her butt," was an appropriate status. I'm getting off topic and ranting! My apologies! Point is, I hate how she does this. I'd rather just have her jump up and down for me and give me a smile with a pat on the back, than to read a message about myself online that I didn't even know she was going to post. And as for the person asking about my dad; our relationship is rocky. No praise from him either. Thanks for the congrats and support, guys! It made me feel good. (:

My own very abusive mother is just like this, can't even bother to see my only baby son but makes out through Facebook like she is grandmother of the year. She has never acknowledged anything that has happened to me except to other people, never had any praise or interest except when she can turn it somehow to reflect on herself. I finally came to the conclusion she probably has narcissistic personality disorder or failing that is just a toxic bitch that I can't in good conscience subject my son to. It's very hard and hurtful to have mothers who treat you this way.

That makes sense. I just thought I'd tell my story and explain a little because a lot of these comments are about how bad it is that people can't express feelings. Some people really struggle with expressing feelings, that's not necessarily the problem! The problem is of course that your Mom chooses to make your achievements about her. #52 That sucks. The friend's Mum I mentioned in my first post is so much like this too. I got hold of her Twitter feed and it's all about what a great parent she is, when I know from talking to her kids that she's abusive and cruel.

That's not a bad idea, but OP would have to be ready for a huge fight at home afterwards. If she thinks it's worth it though, then definitely go for it! All depends on how much energy she wants to invest.