By way2gosam - 26/05/2009 04:52 - United States
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Okay, I'm finally writing back to all 401 of your comments. Yes, I am a pregnant teenager- although, I can not see how that has any revelance to my post, pregnancy in teenagers happens quite often and I do not appreciate the judgemental/negative comments being thrown at me. It's pure slander. Yes, the father and I did have a fallout and I will be raising the baby on my own, with the help and support of my family and friends- not to mention he lives in the northern part of the state that I live in, which happens to be 4-5 hours away, even if he wanted to be here for the arrival of our child(which we are expecting to be a girl), he could not make it here on time. Therefore, my mother is my "go'to man", for lack of better words. I also notice you all are saying that he wouldn't want to hold my hand or watch the baby being born, I never said he would be in the delievery room- I simply asked him to keep my company during the scary hours of contractions that were yet to come, until my mother could arrive and take over. Yes, we had previously discussed it, and he had said that if need-be, he would be there. Unfortunately for me, he was speaking pure lies. As for the premature labor I did go into, they did stop it, and I am now on bed rest while taking a medicine called "terbutaline" every 4 hours in order to hold her until full term. (Which is also why I could write my FML, I didn't come home taking care of a baby, I came home on bed rest so I could have my baby at the correct time. I had nothing else to do but write my FML.) I do understand how confusing and misleading my post was, but keep in mind you only get a certain amount of letters to work with when writing your original FML, and by reading this I'm sure you've noticed that I could not elaborate thouroughly with 300 letters as a maximum. I do appreciate your opinions, even though I do not agree with all the statements that were made. Just wanted to explain since there were so many confused people.
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You're all alone while in labor? So you text your crush? Sounds a little creepy/manipulative to me.
WTF!!! guys just stop it! you have no idea what happened with the father and it's none of your business!!! This is about her best friend abandoning her. That has NOTHING to do with the father and it's NOT YOUR RIGHT to judge her for being pregnant and not calling the father! So STOP judging her if you have NO IDEA. And also, no - it is not the best friend's/crush's responsibility to be there when she is having her baby, but the OP didn't say she wanted him to be there WHILE she was having the baby! She just said she wanted him to sit with her while she was waiting. What's wrong with that? And a real best friend would totally do that. It's not too much to ask for from a best friend.
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#361, unless she was raped or the father died, then there's nothing else we NEED to know. She went and ****** someone who wasn't even right for her obviously, and now she's having a baby that will be fatherless and have a mother with horrible taste in men. (A ditching father and then a ditching crush? Really now.) Or else the father is a good guy and just can't be there, then she's being a ***** with feelings for someone else.
Theres a lesson to be learned here...don't get knocked up
justjayit
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whoops, I meant #362 or whoever it was saying not to judge.
#9 lol :D if you are a stupid teenage girl who forgot a condom one night while you were partying, YDI. if you are one of those crazy teenage girls who want a baby at 16, YDI. if you aren't either of those cases, FYL, I'm sorry the father wasn't in the picture. but if you're going to be a mother, you need to mature and get over "crushes"...
IronysMe
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#9 is the most sensible, nonjudgemental comment here. I second them.
Stop having intercourse
#363 exactly! there's nothing else you need to know, because it's none of your business and has nothing to do with this fml. and yes, maybe he died or she was raped - who knows? or maybe the father turned out to be an asshole and left her or they just seperated. And that she didn't call him to be with her and wait with her doesn't mean she didn't call him at all. Maybe she did call him when the baby was about to be born, but she just didn't want him to be with her while she was there, all alone, waiting for her mother and waiting for her baby to be born. And yeah, maybe she did have sex with someone who wasn't right for her, but how can you blame her for that? Then blame that guy who left her or whatever he did. And don't tell me it's her fault. It might be - yeah. But it might not be. And we all know, that things like that could happen to any of us - I mean being with a guy who turns out to be an asshole or just not the right man. That happens every single day. Some people realize it when the woman gets pregnant, others realize it when they meet each other, others just realize it when they're 40. If that was a bad thing, you would have to judge everybody, who is getting divorced, for being with the wrong man. But the thing is- we have no idea what happened! so DON'T JUDGE unless you know the whole story. if you think she deserved it - okay, whatever, that's your opinion. But you can't say she's immature or going to be a bad mother or anything like that. You judge her by ASSUMPTIONS. How's that fair?
madelinescurse
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dude, i say to give the bestie a break. i mean, im a girl, and i know I don't wanna see some lady having a baby. im not immature, im just saying...
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he probably knows you are into him so is avoiding being to close to you incase he gets the position of father figure to your child and is therefore stuck with you and the kid forever, he saved himself from having a fml
Is he the father? If he is, he should be more than a "crush". Sounds like a bad choice to me either way.