By MonsterInLaw - 08/06/2013 23:26 - United States - Lincoln

Today, my 21-year-old girlfriend finally got the courage to tell her mom that she wanted to move in with me. It turns out she was right to be afraid; during the talk, her mother yelled at us, calling her a slut and saying she was too young to be "shacking up with some guy." FML
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LongRangedShot 6

Wow. That's the thing about overly-protective moms. She needs to learn that she's grown up, and to let her make her own decisions. Hope everything works out for you guys!

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Ambient25 24

I would have to ask, how long have you known her? I knew a girl who showed up to the door of my friend's house after a week of dating, with packed luggage and even her cat in arms....man that's awkward.

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lpietr21 9

Some cultures are very against cohabitation, and for good reason.Statistics show that if a couple lives together before marriage they have a greater chance of divorce. That is a rather young age, even to get married, so it seems like you guys would just be messing around.

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Iknoweverything 29

The cultures (and religions) that are against cohabitation also generally support marriage at a young age, such as around 18, and prefer babies be born inside a marriage. If this was why her mother was upset, she would have done better to express a preference that her daughter get married before moving in. Is that request possibly uncalled for? Yes. But at least there's some rationale involved that isn't involved with screaming that her daughter is a ****. Her reaction was 100% uncalled for, EVEN IF SHE BELONGS TO SAID CULTURES. Based on her response, I highly doubt this is the reason for being upset.

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denisgra000 2

Man up and marry the girl if you like her enough to want to live together, of course the mom is freaked out, not only will you be living together but there is a good chance you're going to impregnate her daughter (Yes it happens) and then there is little to nothing keeping you around afterwards.

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Tegz0rz 12

If she's 21 years old and still fears her mother's opinion, she's probably not mentally mature enough to move out anyways. Either way, her mother has no choice in the matter. She's an adult, she can do whatever she chooses.

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Axel5238 29

Her being 21 she's most likely still a student and can't afford to move out and pay her way. Plus moving in with your bf at that age most are not emotionally mature and not considering the consequences if things go wrong. Her mom definitely still tell her she can't do particularly if she's living with the mom and relies on her.

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brittyboo123 35

I think she's old enough to make the decision to live with you, OP. You can't blame her mom from being upset but she had no right to call her daughter that, unless you two have only been dating a short time.

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beneathitallxx 15

my mom did the same. over protective much?! she probably doesn't want you to leave her side.

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jelly713 19

80, your generalization is so off. There are parents out there that really don't care about their kids. Too many people refuse to believe otherwise so child abusers get away with it for years on end. That generalization is just not true. Some people really don't care what happens to their kids. Not that OP's girlfriend's mom doesn't love her but she clearly doesn't respect her when she makes decisions. OP's mother sounds like my mother, no respect, she just calls me what she wants out of anger & justifies it by being my mother or by being "right". A selfless mom doesn't insult her child in the worst way possible. She tries to reason with them in a mature manner.

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Axel5238 29

Most people on aren't mature enough to move in with someone else at 21. I had a few friends that thought moving in with their best friends and party buddy after college was just gonna be a party all the time. Unfortunately, both of her friends ended up leaving because she just wasn't ready for the responsibility of having her own place. Even if you have been dating for over a year, sharing a place and bills is a big responsibility and if something went wrong one of you may end up with a chunk of debt to pay off.

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Jemm_fml 29

Iduno, while no mother should EVER call her own child (or anybody's child) a ****, 21 is very young still, just barely out of the teens, to be living with someone. Of COURSE if you live with someone you love you're going to live like a family. Maybe her mother's concerned about that, I don't see a mother who wouldn't be. And living together means regular sex. Regular sex means increased risk of unintentional pregnancy. If it does happen, is a 21 year old truly ready to be a mom? I don't blame her mom's concern, I blame her mom's lack of tact in expressing it.

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Dilwann 27

You just went from living together to being a very young mom. I don't know about you, but a lot of people have regular sex and not all women end up getting pregnant. Yes, the risk is bigger, but not enough to disapprove living together. Teach people about safe sex, not abstinence.

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Jemm_fml 29

I'm not saying any of that isn't true. Whether it is logically justified or not a mother would still be concerned and that's literally my only point. I don't blame the mother for worrying. I blame her to be crap at expressing her concerns and instead shaming her daughter into manipulation.

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nina21194 12

This sounds frighteningly familiar to my mother.

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