That sounds like you think he's the bad guy. How do you know that's the case? If it is true what OP's boyfriend said, then she might be the type of woman who's "gonna stay with him" because he lets her beat him around.

Does it matter who the bad guy is? If he's talking to her like that, then obviously they are both in an unhappy relationship. She should dump his ass.

Hell. And it'd actually be your eyes, no? Since this is a site... Unless of course you are blind, and have something that reads everything on the screen to you....

actually it would be "H-E-Sideways Equals Sign" or "H-E-Pi missing the top" thank you very much

Sometimes people do say things during the heat of a fight that they regret later, and I agree that those things happen, and should be worked through. This, however, strikes me as a little bit different. Firstly because he said it while he was already calm, and appeared to have planned to say it before he did, so it was not an outburst. Secondly because he was using emotional blackmail. He knows that marriage is something that she desires, so he is hanging it over her head to try to get her to behave how he would like her to. And he is making it seem like marriage is something that he wasn't very interested in to begin with, he would only be doing it as a favor to her. Also, I don't believe that calling someone an emotional train wreck is a productive way to approach a problem. If they really are emotional, they're just going to get upset at being insulted. And saying that someone has no control over their emotions, while both of you are fighting, is sometimes a way to undermine their side of a discussion. From that point on, everything they say, rational or not, becomes painted as irrational. A controlling ex of mine would often pull that stuff, saying that I would use him as an "emotional punching bag" whenever I got upset with any of the ways he would mistreat me. It only led me to bottle my emotions, and problems became more difficult to confront. I realized what this was doing to me, and left him, and in a way I'm glad for what I learned. I was younger, and it was a good lesson to learn early on, about not letting someone that I care about take advantage of my forgiving and helping nature. My point is just that the OP should be cautious. She very well may have been unstable from the get-go, as her bf claimed. But to me, the way she described his actions just smells a little bit like emotional manipulation.

Your comment is so long that I can't even thumb it up on the FML app. :(

I agree on both of those accounts. I stopped reading at "proceeded" to click YDI. It was also a really bad use of the word.