Do you still want to marry him? If you feel comfortable with going back to not having a ring, then what's the trouble? If you don't feel comfortable, then it's time to ask yourself why. Is the payments issue from the economy or a job situation, or is he a bum? Do you feel like he can afford to pay for it, and just doesn't value you enough to pay for something that he doesn't get any "benefit" from? The fact that you wrote this FML means to me that you think there's a reason to be upset besides him "not being able" to afford the ring.

oh that's rough. I think, in this kind of situation, that if this ring was so important and it was the one she truly wanted, that maybe she could've offered to help out. I know that's not tradition but traditions can change. Personally, I'm really simple. If it came down to the ring being out of price range, I would've just returned it and found a pretty one for less money. As stated above by many, an engagement ring is just a symbol. It doesn't mean that he doesn't love you and doesn't want to marry you if you don't have one. We were all just raised to think we needed both an engagement ring and a wedding ring. I like what my parents did, my mom got a small cheap diamond ring for their engagement and when they got married, she got a surrounding for the engagement ring complete with her birthstones in it. Together it was fairly inexpensive and it was still gorgeous. Nonetheless, yes it sucks to not have an engagement ring but it doesn't mean you need to call off the engagement. Just need to wait for a better time or a different ring. As far as the possibility of a young marriage, I'm not saying it's wrong to get married early or that its such a horrid thing, but we don't know how long they were planning on waiting. I know that right now, I wouldn't get married. Not until I'm 25+, and if I got engaged at this point I would definitely hold off the wedding until I was ready for it. So, we don't know if she is 18 or 19 and is getting married in a month or if she's waiting a few years. My uncle, who is 25, is engaged and they are waiting 2 years to get married. They have been engaged for about a year but they continue to wait until they are completely ready to sign that marriage certificate. Just because the OP has a possibility of being young doesn't mean she was actually planning on getting married in the next year or so. Just thought I'd throw that possibility out there.

This is what cubic zirconia is for.

yeah my ring juust got paid off and we have been married for almost a year. but my band is from wallmart and doesnt look that great. but what im getting at is.... its not the money u spend or if uu have a ring or not. you love each other.THats all u need. &maybe yall can work on your spending habits.

Oh boo hoo! STFU!

I don't get the big deal. If you love one another, why do you need a ring to be engaged? I highly recommend you read the history of diamond engagement rings. They really are pretty new in the scheme of things, and a lot of their marketing as a necessary symbol for marriage came from the De Beers company. I do hope the reason you say "not 'engaged'" simply means that you aren't wearing a ring. If something else has changed, there is something exceptionally wrong with your relationship.

wat a douche I'd get rid of him he's not worth it

better u know now what a cheap ass he is!

wat a d-bag dont pay 4 his ring....EVER!!!!

that not fair you should leave that hoe