he cheated on you

Yeah I agree, the guy obviously cheated. I'm sorry to hear that though, it's been happening a lot for those of us that are deployed. ____________________________ www.myspace.com/rapid99

dont assume things

Don't worry about that SOB, you will find a better man. I know someone brave enough to fight for our country in Iraq deserves a better life partner.

he's definitely getting some nice cooch on the side. YDI.

A person has needs. You can't be gone for years, or even months, and expect any normal person to sit and wait for you. If you were gone on a 5 year business trip, instead of serving, I guarantee people would have radically different reactions. It's not what you're doing, it's the fact that you're gone.

Umm...it says they've been MARRIED for 5 years, not that she's been GONE for 5 years. Learn to read. No military deployment to Iraq is 5 years at a time. And if she had been overseas or stationed far from home, as her husband he could have gone with her. And it is not unreasonable for someone to wait for you during a 12 or 15 month deployment. Been there, done that. Twice. I love my husband and I know he's worth the wait. In my opinion, if a relationship isn't able to endure 12 months of separation with a visit in between during times with e-mail, webcam, online phone calls...then what kind of love is that supposed to be?!

If you can't keep your pants on than DON'T MARRY A SOLDIER. Dealing with deployments is, unfortunately part of the deal. The men and women in our armed forces don't deserved to be betrayed because some insignificant other has no self control.

Yea, they may keep going and going again if they signed up for their full 20 years...some people don't. My husband was only in for 6 years total, he is now out of the service. And in that case it is well worth the wait if you actually love someone. And in those 6 years he has only been deployed twice. It's not like they return from deployment and leave again right away. Some people also can't seem to grasp the concept of "long-distance relationship" a deployment is NOT a long-distance relationship, it's a temporary thing that passes...and any devoted military wife would agree with me. I have a lot of friends whose husbands are lifers and they fully support their husbands in whatever they do. If you can't handle it. Don't be with a soldier, it's as simple as that.

#96, life is too short to not be with the person you love just because it isn't easy. My husband is on his second deployment in three years (first was 15 months, this is 12), will leave for another 7 months for AIT when he gets back, and probably deploy again when that's over. And y'know what? He's worth it. Because he IS the love of my life. I'd rather have him from a distance than anyone else here all the time. THAT is real love. OP, I'm so sorry. The distance can be hell. Hopefully once he sees you again, he'll realize he'd be a fool to walk away.

he wants ur money and benefits what a bastard

Her husband should go to Iraq and find out how incredibly enjoyable it is.

Thank you, OP! Am I the only one?

Because if he leaves before she gets back, he can take ALL 'their' stuff. And.. then she'll be able to grab him by the balls and DEMAND he give her the real reason. OP; As a veteran, I salute you for your service and sacrifices.

Or maybe it could be because she actually loves him and is one of the few of us left that still believes in making a marriage work. Just a thought.

He doesn't sound worth saving a marriage with. Not every relationship works out. He's made it clear he wants something else. Get one of your family/friends to secure your stuff while you're gone. Thank you for your service! You deserve a husband who loves you as much as you love him.

That's a very very generous way of putting it...

No offense, but that's freaking impossible. They're MARRIED; therefore, they probably live together. Besides, we don't deploy without telling our families where we are. OP, I'm sorry your husband turned out to be such a jerk. :(

it was a joke numbnuts