What's wrong with being a 21-year-old virgin? Seriously, what's wrong with it?

I purposely stayed virgin until I was 20 and in a serious relationship. But because all my friends were male, I always had to deal with parents forbidding me to hang out alone because of "sex". I was horribly, horribly offended and pissed off to no end at being accused of something that I would ******* never even consider. To this day it boils my blood that I had to deal with such distrust throughout my teens. I was the best-behaved kid in town and my parents still acted like that. FYL, op, because I had to deal with the same thing, and I know how infuriating it is to be accused of something you don't do. (Btw, don't give your virginity just to give it away--wait for the person who deserves it!)

What's wrong with being a 21 year old virgin? It's better than not being a virgin at 14

The former, despite the self-delusions of the other 21+ y.o. virgins.

Damn some of you people need to get out more....Haha being past 16 and still a virgin is nothing you need to brag about. I understand not sleeping with just some random person, but being a virgin means you haven't found anybody! That's not a good thing.

your mother is a prostitute.

You're really missing out.

There's nothing wrong with being a 21 year old virgin, nor is there any reason why you should be ashamed of it. Don't get me wrong. I also don't believe that being a virgin is something to be proud of. I was only a few weeks from turning 20 when I had sex for the first time, and before that, I never felt like less of a woman when my friends ribbed me for being a virgin, but I also didn't feel like it made me better than them. To the people who are saying that there's nothing wrong with having morals, sex is not necessarily a moral issue. Here in America, especially, we are brought up with so many mixed signals about sex. If you went to church when you were a kid, you were brought up hearing that sex is bad, and people who have sex when they're not married are wicked. On the other hand, sex is also heavily glorified. But you people have to realize that not everyone was raised with the same morals as you. Personally, I grew up in a Baptist family, and we just never talked about sex. Once I grew up, I started using my own brain, and created my own moral code. My conclusion about sex was that it's merely a life experience, like skydiving or bungee jumping. I would get to it when I was ready. And the OP will, too.

I feel like if she's so sure you've had sex, she must think you're smokin' hot and all the guys would go for you. (; No big deal being a virgin, though. Don't put yourself down for it.

OP, self-esteem is foundation. All your relationships will stem from it. Your mother is hammering at the foundation. Don't worry about secondary issues like virginity right now--save the essence of your soul, get out of your mother's house, get a job, pay the rent, it's not hard at all. It's much easier than listening to your mother screaming accusations, I assure you.