I understand Op that you found the comparison disrespectful. Your mother was a person, not a cat, and thus, in your mind, should be elevated to great importance. However, some people had shit parents, or were never close. They might be socially anxious and not be able to relate to people. Comparing the death of a parents to the death of an animal is only rude if they say, "Your mom is like a dog I hit driving this morning." If they genuinely loved the pet and had it for a significant number of years, then they could have had a very close, emotional bond to that animal. When someone loses something we want to make them feel better. If all you have is a dead pet, in an awkward situation you are going to throw that on the table and hope that the person will feel better knowing you understand their loss. I lost a dog at 12 and that caused me to cry harder than the death of my grandmother. I just had more of an emotional attachment to the dog than my grandmother who lives 1,000 miles away.

So 90, are you saying an adopted child is not as important as a birthed child? I am a pet owner as well and i can tell you that, as a sane person, i will still be more broken hearted when my dog dies than when my grandma died. I'm more attached to my dog.

They are an asshole. So rude.

sorry about your mom. and whoever said that is garbage.

Death is death. The only thing that makes it significant is how attached the survivors are to the deceased. Some people care more about their cat than their mother, and would grieve appropriately. Who are you to say that their grief is less valid than yours?

I am someone who cares deeply for my pet and will be devastated when she dies, and frankly I'm insulted by your presumptuousness. While you obviously didn't deserve your mother's death, I said YDI anyway for being so ignorant. For many people, pets are just as important as human family members. To automatically insist that a human has to be more important is just inconsiderate and self-centered. To them, the cat may have mattered just as much or more than their mother would have. And that's a perfectly legitimate way to feel. And pets aren't any more "replaceable" than humans. You can get another one, but it would be a different being entirely. Similarly, you can have another child if one dies, but it won't be the same child. Why would any other species all be exactly alike when humans are all so different?

People that believe their animal is as important as a person are morons with the inability to build real relationships. Pets are pets. Even crappy people are more important than an animal. I absolutely despise people that act like their animal is as important as a child or person. I am very sorry for your loss and that you ha to deal with a complete moron

a lot of people are kind of nervous at the news of someones death, and they're just trying to relate. it wasn't an insult, they just wanted to reach out to you

And whats wrong with that OP? You dont know how long theyve cried over their pet. Stop thinking only about yourself and use your brain for once

I actually had the same thing occur when someone compared the death of my Nana to their dog. Sure, loss is loss and to some, it can be just as tragic and crushing...but it's one of the comparisons you never make.