By Amanda - 10/03/2013 16:08 - Canada

Today, when I got home, my child had three bruises. My babysitter's excuse? "She hit me first". FML
I agree, your life sucks 55 174
You deserved it 6 671

Same thing different taste

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Maybe you could give the babysitter a few bruises.

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As a babysitter myself, I would never hit a child. Being hit myself as a child, it's no fun. Send the police after her. No child should EVER be hit

Call the goddamn FBI on her ass! She could be put in jail for at least a year and probably more!

SHAMUS_the_WITTY 18

I think local police will suffice in this situation.

I'm pretty sure the FBI doesn't care about babysitters gone wrong

BellaBelle_fml 23

Unless a child is kidnapped and taken across state lines, the FBI would not get involved.

SHAMUS_the_WITTY 18

82, back home in Alabama (I'm in New Orleans now) a little boy got kidnapped just a few weeks ago. The dude had him locked down in an underground bunker as a hostage. They didn't even go out of the town limits and the FBI showed up.

BellaBelle_fml 23

115 - That is horrendous! I feel so sorry for that precious child and their parents. I just don't understand how someone could be that cruel to anyone, let alone a defenseless child! It breaks my heart, really. And now that you mention it, I think it was if an adult was kidnapped and taken across state lines, and if a child was kidnapped, if they were taken across state lines or not, the FBI get involved. But I'm really not 100% sure. I'm just so sad about the OP's child being bruised and about that other child being kidnapped and treated so horribly. I have a very sensitive heart when it comes to child abuse as I was an abused child, and even into my late teens, and I just can't stand the thought of anyone else having to go through what I did.

SHAMUS_the_WITTY 18

159, surprisingly the guy actually took decent care of the kid. Luckily he's alright. Google "Jimmy Dykes kidnapping" for more info. The kid's name was Ethan

SHAMUS_the_WITTY 18

I'm surprised you didn't hear about it. It made national news. To give you an idea of how big this was, Dr. Phil showed up afterwards to interview Ethan and his family.

BellaBelle_fml 23

My husband and I recently moved, we have to temporarily stay with his parents :/, and so we had to have our Comcast shut off. So I haven't been able to watch any TV for a while now. I am glad to hear that he didn't torture Ethan or anything, and that he was caught and Ethan is safe and sound once again. But it is still a very traumatic experience to go through.

I can understand a little smack to discourage the kid from hurting her again (babysitters shouldn't have to passively endure abuse either) however, with three bruises the sitter clearly went way too far. I imagine it must have been difficult for you to not replicate the bruises on the sitter.

she should have been an adult and explained why hitting isn't nice. Hitting a child to teach him/her that hitting is wrong is hypocritical.

Yes, that's true, but sometimes kids just don't get it. I know if I hit my Mum or anyone when I was really little, my Mum would first try to tell me not to hit because it hurts, and isn't good behaviour. If I didn't listen/was chucking a tanty, she would give me a smack for every hit I gave. Believe me, you work out pretty quick that you can't win!

53, Young children don't think rationally as adults do. Explaining to a kid that hitting is wrong often isn't enough, nor do they see the hypocrisy of punishing violence with violence. They do understand cause and effect, however. If a child realizes that they will have to endure physical pain for any action, they won't repeat that action. And I wasn't suggesting that beating a child is ever okay. A.single open handed smack on the bottom or hand will do.

BTW 53, In my opinion parents actually do their children a disservice when they don't spank their children for hitting them. That teaches them that if they hit someone the person won't retaliate and in the real world that isn't true. Then someday when the kid is older they may hit somebody who WILL hit them back, and then they could get in a terrible fight and get seriously injured, or arrested, or both. It's better children learn the ways of the world sooner with smaller consequences than later with bigger consequences. However, it's perhaps a different story with a babysitter. In that situation it may be better for the babysitter to tell the parents about the violent behavior when they get home. Personally, however, I wouldn't mind if a babysitter smacked my child on the hand if my kid was trying to beat them up.

Psycho_Babydoll 26

Honestly, I've never met a child who doesn't hit. And I'm not saying that all children who hit others are disrespectful brats with no manners, depending on their age sure it can be seen that way but somehow I'm feeling that the child in this FML was 5 or under. All kids lash out sometimes in a temper tantrum, sometimes it's all just playfighting that gets out of hand. If I hit my little brother back, or my nieces and nephews back every time they hit me, they'd all probably be dead. If she's going to leave three bruises on a child simply because of being hit, what does she do if someone her own age does something worse? That babysitter is screwed up, and I think it goes without saying that she ought to be fired and even taken to court. Though stories about child abuse make my skin crawl, I'd probably wish more than a lawsuit on this girl.

Ultimate_No 7

I'm not trying to justify what the babysitter did, but I can say from my own experience some kids are violent brats and their parents don't care one bit and/or even think it's funny. It wasn't the babysitter's job to discipline the kid, no. But I'm noticing more and more parents that don't make any steps towards raising their kid to be a properly functioning member of society, and frankly it's disgusting.

Psycho_Babydoll 26

Well yeah, I do agree with that. But the thing is, we don't really know enough in this situation- we don't know the childs age, or how/why she hit the babysitter. Could have been because she was throwing a tantrum, or because she didn't know any better and didn't realise she'd hurt her, we simply don't know and can't judge. But even if the child was old enough to know better and did it out of rage, you don't deal with ANY child by hitting them, especially not hard enough to leave bruises.

I think it's time for a new baby-sitter, and for you to teach your bratty child not to hit others.

Geese, I don't think a child should be 'beat black and blue'. Not once did I say that. I just know, I have younger cousins who would hit and were never disciplined for their actions, and I never hit anyone when i was that age. It just depends what you're taught. Or if you're not taught at all.

I really hope this baby sitter wasn't an adult. In any case they should be punished, severely.

Getting spanked with those plastic hot glue sticks don't leave marks. That's what my mommy did to me *tears*

Somebody lays a finger on your baby, you kick their ass so hard your foot gets stuck!