I prefer not to talk about it. Dark stuff from childhood.

That's you. People deal with things in different ways, it's incredibly rude and insensitive to imply op was doing this for pity because YOU don't deal with things that way. For many, that's how they can move on and that's something they should be able to do.

Are you ******* kidding me? I offered that out of solidarity, not accusing OP of wanting pity or waning pity myself. Sometimes you need to talk about it. And OP clearly felt the need to talk about it, tried, and was met with an incredibly sick response. Pity has nothing to do with this, and you're ******* brain dead if you thought that is what I was saying at all.

I was talking to zaidthunder, who in another comment implied op was trying to get pity by telling others. Sorry for the confusion, I agree and think your comment was very kind.

I wasn't implying that OP was trying to get pity friends. Sharing might very well be a way to let out your feelings regarding your ordeal, but things like that should be reserved for very close ones like your immediate family, partner therapist and close friends, not a group of friends in a social setting. It just makes things more awkward.

I see. I am sorry about my reaction, then. I get that kind of reaction on here a lot, though. I say something kind and someone just twists it around. I apologize for thinking you meant me.

Dude, zaidthunder or whatever your name is, you don't get to say ANYTHING about how someone talks about their trauma. I recently remembered even more and both of my friends were in the room and I told them both. The key here is to not have asshole friends who will make sick comments about abuse. Sometimes you can't talk about something until you can, and sometimes you just HAVE to, right then. Everyone deals with abuse in different ways, and OP did nothing wrong. You should be able to announce it to the whole world and be met with nothing but support towards you and anger towards your attacker. But the world is full of callous, sick people and OP's friends are some of them.

It's fine, rereading it I realized I made no attempt to show who I was commenting to. I'm sorry you get that and you went through what you did. I hope you have much better support than op

I do, now. my friends are pretty great, and that's why they're my friends. I never had anyone else I could talk to about it, since 3 separate members of my family did it to me. But now they are out of my life and I feel free at last.

You are a scumbag. People open up for help not pity.

Opening up totally depends upon your ordeal, the culture you live in and the people around you. I could never open up about my childhood ordeal to anyone not to my parents because the subject is too taboo. In a more condusive environment a person could definitely talk about it a therapist and loved ones.