Persuade him to try gay sex then, because the anus is on the same spot in all girls, much closer to the front than on guys. The only way he'll find a back door farther back like he seems to want, is on a guy! :D

He's clearly licking the wrong area then, if he's worried about it being so close to their ass. Boys, lesson 101 on oral sex: find the ********.

I agree. Women can't help their anatomy. He is either young or immature. It would've been better to say "That's not my preference" than something along the lines of that female anatomy creeps him out.

Why does everyone assume the bf doesn't know that the anus is the same on most women? If anything it sounded like a desperate attempt to find any excuse to not go down. Now whether his excuse was believable or not...

The mouth is the attic window.

you must be really shallow

Valuing good sex--or at least a good effort--in a relationship is not shallow. In fact, it's more long term. If you want to be with this person for an extended period of time, you're going to have sex with them for an extended period of time. If you're not enjoying it, they will know, they will resent it, and the entire relationship will suffer. That being said, I'd be willing to work with someone who was rough around the edges. Someone who wasn't willing to reciprocate oral sex because they're troubled by normal anatomy? Of course that's a deal breaker. Unless you're asexual. In which case, enjoy your platonic long term relationships. I hope they're super-satisfying.

Shallow or not, I will admit I have pretty high standards, and those are for my own sake so I can be comfortable in the rest of my life and not pair up with someone I despise. Male suiters must be intelligent (at least matching mine)... among other things (you know, typical matching sense of humor, appreciation for health, like pets, et cetera, long walks on the beach) and part of that intelligence is: 1) knowing and understanding the male and female bodily and sexual functions and 2) being smart enough to know that going down on me or, heaven forbid, accidentally touching my anus won't signal the end of the world. In fact, finding a guy who loves going down on a girl and will respectfully stay away from your anus, but explore if you so request, should be treated like a treasure. Because, girls, there are a lot of selfish men out there. Skip them, look for the good ones. If I'm going to be hanging out with a guy for the rest of my life (or for any period of time, really), he can't suck in bed. Period.

@organisedchaos I wouldn't dump a douche because I wouldn't date a douche to begin with. So that is unnecessary. Standards, people! (Unless we are talking about FB's, and that is a whole other ballpark. You don't have to be good looking or nice to be a FB, just good in bed.)

@184 But if you met a decent guy who was everything you liked except for the part about great sex, wouldn't you give him a chance to improve? You'd be in a perfect position to teach/mold him into pleasing you the way you want to be pleased. Why throw the baby out with the bath water, so to speak? btw, that's an adorable little kitten, no perverted jokes.

@organisedchaos I'm not 16, I expect more from men my age. @redpillsucks That's true... BUT usually men who say "girls smell funny down there" or "your anus is too close to your ******" are lacking maturity. In my experience there it's not worth it with guys like that, so don't even try.

131- How good someone is in bed is not what a relationship is built on. It may be for you, but for mature people, there's a thing called compatibility and personality. Getting along and communicating well are what make a relationship last for the long haul. Eventually, if you ever get mature enough, you'll want that. No duh a relationship will suffer due to bad sex IF sex is the only thing that brought the couple together. alex - "standards, people?" really?? You tell people to have standards when the first thing you look for in a guy is how good they are in bed?? That should be the very last thing to worry or think about, if at all you care about who they are as a person rather than how THEY CAN SATISFY YOU! umm selfish much? And YOU were the one talking about skipping the selfish men. All you think about is yourself.

You talk about being mature, but you respond with "no duh". Something is wrong with this picture.

oh hey! look who it is! dumb bitch! ya, STOP STALKING ME and STOP COMMENTING ON MY COMMENTS! I was not talking to you so GTFO. btw your lack of logic is beyond me.

Lack of logic? Look up the meaning of "logic" and "lack". Stalking? Look up the meaning of "stalking", too. Both your most recent posts further prove my point. Thank you.

listen up, k? STOP REPLYING TO MY COMMENTS! I do not want to hear what you have to say. You are arguing with me merely for the sake of arguing and I'm not going to be a part of your little party. you have no reason for your posts. I said, "No duh a relationship will suffer due to bad sex IF sex is the only thing that brought the couple together." You say that "no duh" is immature. You don't have a valid argument and yes, you have a lack of logic if you think that you do. You are stalking me because you are following me and commenting on my posts that you're not even in! Stop trying to get in my business

If you want to complain about stalking or whatever else, please do so via private messaging, either to the person in question, or to a moderator. Thanks.

No, I'm not even arguing. I'm refuting your comments and consistently proving you wrong. I do have reason for my posts. Have you read the ones in the prior thread? Clearly not, since you're dumb as a brick and not understanding a damn thing. I have many valid arguments. You're not catching them... Have you read Cinn's comments? Maybe they will give you insight. If not, there's no hope. I think you need to look up "lack" and "logic" again. This time, read the definitions. I'm pretty sure you're telling me not to do what you did to my earlier comments. I was post #32, you were #72 in response to mine. I am not stalking you; rather if anyone's stalking anyone, you're stalking me. Though, I won't be so childish to accuse you of that. It's a public site.

Oversight/correction: I commented on your comment simply pointing something out. This is still not stalking. Sorry Sirin; conversation is (hopefully) over now. Just wanted to point out my oversight.