I feel badly for you. It's terrible that you were a trusting wife, allowing your husband to keep a friendship with an ex that apparently was meaningful to him, only to have your trust betrayed. My boyfriend and I are both friends with exes, and we haven't messed things up over the years because we've chosen to be responsible. Of course, you could argue that that only works until someone stops being responsible. No matter what people tell you, though, there's no absolute, best method for how much to trust your partner. Hope you heal from this okay.

idiocy to think they weren't hooking up

What is it with people that they're so naive??

There's plenty of difference between trust and stupidity, and this is definitely the latter.

Does he even drink coffee? And if he does... You obviously didn't make very good coffee.

Trust. Then verify.

Haha, oh wow. I'm going to have to say you totally deserved this one. And for everyone saying it's okay to have a friendly relationship with an ex, that's fine, but when he's going out for coffee with her every week? That's a little suspicious. I don't see any one of my friends every week except for the one who lives in the same building with me, so for him to be doing that is kind of off.

Girls only love assholes. YDI

YDI for trusting him with his EX

2years it took you the reason for his happy face?