Work, Health and Family: I want to break free

I want to break free

By annoyed - 29/11/2021 20:01 - United States - Staten Island

Today, I found out that after caring for all of my family and I’m about to get on with my own life, someone has dementia and I'm right back in the same spot I’ve been forever, stuck again with caring for someone else. This has been going on for 20 years. FML

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By David - 17/08/2023 06:00

Today, after my dad was diagnosed with liver cancer, I'd packed my belongings and quit my job to go help my mom take care of him. Now she's had a stroke, so I spend my days/nights taking care of both of them. The thing is, I have 3 siblings that live within 5 miles that can't lift a finger to help. I love my parents. FML

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By blah - 19/01/2016 20:53 - United States - Frisco

Today, I found out my father didn't have a rare brain disease, and that he was just an alcoholic. I've been taking care of him every time his "brain disease" acts up, for 2 years. FML

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By Anonymous - 01/09/2024 02:00 - United States

Today, I've always struggled with communication and such with my family, so I was difficult to take care of, yet I always held myself together, did my chores, and took care of myself. Sometimes I even helped them out, but now they’re kicking me out of the house, and I have nowhere to go, and I don’t know what to do. FML

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Alexa, play "Five Years" by David Bowie

By elle - 19/11/2013 17:31 - United States - Round Lake

Today, I saw a psychiatrist for the first time. After telling her everything I'm going through, she looked at me and said "You know… every five years or so I get a case completely beyond my ability to help." I guess it's been five years. FML

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Don't mention it

By Anonymous - 28/03/2022 06:00 - United States - Verona

Today, my mother went on another long rant, detailing 20 years of bad things that we all already knew about a relative. The slightest recollection in a conversation never fails to turn into unending monologues. I can't change the past, nor the subject of conversation apparently. FML

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Alexa, play "Hawaii" by Public Image Ltd

By Anonymous - 02/08/2023 12:00

Today, my mom has gotten to the stage of her Alzheimer’s where every time I visit she thinks I’m a burglar, and screams and cries until I leave. My dad does his best, but I just want my mom back. FML

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Shackled

By Merserve - 09/07/2020 02:00

Today, I went over to confront my parents about how my siblings always get to visit and all I do when I’m over is work on their house or take care of grandma. My mom was very upset. Then she snuck out with my sister, leaving me to take care of grandma until she got back. FML

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Happy/Sad

By McNuggets - 19/08/2023 08:00

Today, I started the job of my dreams, which I’ve spent 20 years trying to get, only to get a call that my mom, who supported me when no one else would or could, went into a coma. I didn’t even get to tell her I started the job. FML

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Sharing is caring

By Anonymous - 06/05/2020 14:00

Today, nine months after changing my entire life when my father had a stroke and I became his carer full time, I called my sister to talk about some his irrational behavior. All I got in response was, "I just watched a sad movie, I can't deal with this right now." FML

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Growing old

By Anonymous - 08/10/2021 19:00 - United States - Steele

Today, I'm officially stumped as to whether my mom has early-onset dementia, or if she just has plain bad memory. I've considered having her get tested, but I shudder to think that the person who brought me into this world won't recognize me in about two years if I'm right. FML

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BurnInDemonFire 34

Tuesday 30 November 2021 2:56

Time to learn how to say no before this goes on for another 20 years and you basically become a prisoner. Put yourself first for once, and tell whoever is left in your family to pull their weight for a change.

historygrad74 19

Tuesday 30 November 2021 2:25

You need to take care of yourself

Comments

historygrad74 19

Tuesday 30 November 2021 2:25

You need to take care of yourself

RichardPencil 30

Tuesday 30 November 2021 2:25

You said "someone." Did you forget who it is that has dementia? Is it you?

BurnInDemonFire 34

Tuesday 30 November 2021 2:56

Hangryko 29

Tuesday 30 November 2021 4:59

You don't have to do it. Tell the family it's time for someone else's turn. You've done more than enough.

KookieLove666 15

Tuesday 30 November 2021 20:05

Move on with your life! I know what its like to deal with that. I've turned down once in a lifetime opportunities to try to take care of sick family and now I'm just watching my life and happiness fade away over people who don't even appreciate it. If I could do it all over again, I'll tell them good luck and then go live a much better life.