It's not my fault

By GuiltyNidia - 19/05/2023 22:00

Today, my best friend’s parents told me they’re gonna take me to court and sue me for “all I got.” Turns out, he'd committed suicide after I got in a relationship with someone else. Apparently, he’s had feelings for me for a while and couldn’t handle that fact. FML
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First off, I’m so sorry for your loss. But please know that this was never your fault. It was on your friend to make his feelings known if he had them, and he is the only one responsible for how he chose to act on them, as tragic as it was. In all likelihood, his parents are just grieving and lashing out in their pain at the most convenient target because it’s easier than accepting it as-is. Don’t judge them too harshly, but please don’t just quietly take what they’re flinging your way, either. I wish you all the best and good luck.

Unless you actually encouraged the person to commit suicide there is no way you could ever be found liable. The parents are simply delusional. It’s highly unlikely any lawyer would pursue the case.

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Unless you actually encouraged the person to commit suicide there is no way you could ever be found liable. The parents are simply delusional. It’s highly unlikely any lawyer would pursue the case.

First off, I’m so sorry for your loss. But please know that this was never your fault. It was on your friend to make his feelings known if he had them, and he is the only one responsible for how he chose to act on them, as tragic as it was. In all likelihood, his parents are just grieving and lashing out in their pain at the most convenient target because it’s easier than accepting it as-is. Don’t judge them too harshly, but please don’t just quietly take what they’re flinging your way, either. I wish you all the best and good luck.

Try to get close with his parents, then pull back and they'll probably kill themselves. Problem solved.

Wow, that's terrible in a lot of ways. First off, I'm sorry for your loss. It wouldn't be easy under normal circumstances, but having the person's parents blame you for it is definitely a thousand times worse. It most certainly is not your fault. Even if you were aware of his feelings for you, it's your right to date someone else. If you genuinely didn't know how he felt, then those parents are beyond out of line. I'm not a lawyer, but I seriously doubt they have any grounds for this. It's not like you dated and broke up with him, and even then that wouldn't be feasible in court. I'd like to give them the benefit of the doubt and think they're lashing out at you as a form of grief/mourning, but if they insist on making this a legal matter, I'd have a lawyer on speed dial.

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there was something else wrong in his life, it’s not possible for this single event to have such a drastic effect

I'm so sorry for your loss. You've done nothing wrong, but they're grieving and looking for somebody to blame. You can write them a letter telling them how much he meant to you and that you were unaware of his feelings and that you wish you'd known sooner. Let them know you're grieving as well but will respect their wishes if they prefer you keep your distance.