Another thing I want to point out is that a lot of the people against marriage are saying that not being married eliminates things like lawyers and custody battles, and I really can't believe that. When people who have kids split up, there is gonna be issues, whether they are married or not. Maybe they both want the kids, maybe neither of them do, maybe the one who wants the kids isn't the one who's best to raise them or whatever. A lot of the time people aren't able to figure these things out civilly on their own because they are selfish or upset or whatever, and that's where family law and custody cases come in, to help with those decisions. When married people divorce, there aren't always big fights and complicated court cases, but when unmarried people split, they don't always get to "simply go their own way" with no hassle all the time either.

That sucks. I might suggest you to suggest a paternity test, but if he doesn't trust you, maybe it's time to move on, anyway.

Seriusly... your both damn ignorent... seriusly even though you have both black hair your baby could still end up with another hair color!... It's all about genes. You have atleast two genes which codes for two diffrend hair colors. you give one gene away to your baby, this means if you both have a gene that codes for blond hair she have a 1/4 chance of getting blonde. The reason why you aren't blonde is that the gene that codes for black hair is dominating.

Here in Europe, after a couple of years, cohabitation is equal to marriage in the eyes of the law. So there is an alimony. I don't really know the US laws but there should be something similar. Unless the owerwhelming amount of bigotry let these matters stay unnoticed. Please, correct me if I'm wrong. And I better be.

Welp...looks like its gonna be about *cough* 4 years til you two get back together... "What's this...? Why does he have black hair?" All while your in Bali chillin'...

what a douche - he's just using any excuse he can to get out of the relationship - he's truly a loser! u r better without him.

YDI for not being married.

All of you who claim babymomma deserves a YDI because she's a "****" make my head hurt... Marriage wouldn't have done anything to prevent this situation. Either way, the guy is still an untrusting dumbass. No piece of legal document would have changed that. If anything, the situation would have been MUCH worse with all the stress and all the money it would have cost to UNdo that legal document. If they were together for 5 years, they were both consenting parties in having a sexual relationship. Therefore, they had to both accept responsibility that pregnancy was a possibility. I do feel bad because it is an unfortunate situation. But how much worse would it be to stay with an idiot simply because he is your child's father? babymomma, you will find someone much more deserving of your loyalty who will love both you and your child.

Paternity test? :/

That really, really sucks. ): Also, I've been reading some of these comments, and I have to say that people are really dumb. For example, calling you (or anyone, just because they have a baby and are not married) a **** is ridiculous, since you may have very well been planning on a child, whether or not you're married! And heck, you could be 35 for all I (or anyone else) knows. Anyway, I'm sure you're old enough to make your own decisions, and I really hope everything works out for you. (: