Your imagination may sound good in theory, but I don't think anyone wants the moment of their official, down-on-one-knee engagement to be entangled in a conflict like this. If these two do get back together, remembering this experience, regardless of an engagement, will be incredibly unpleasant to OP at the least, and she might even feel guilty or humiliated for being jealous, mistrusting her boyfriend, and accusing him of an act that would cause her to break up with him when he didn't commit it. People aren't simple, and relationships aren't as simple as you're making them out to be at the moment, either. I think you may have forgotten that this wasn't a minor instance of mistaken jealousy - they broke up over it. Who wants an engagement to be coupled with an instance of loss of commitment? It doesn't bode well for a marriage that will hopefully last. OP needs to find a separate time to propose to her, if he gets the chance to.

I understand they broke up over it, but it's a silly thing. Nothing grave happened, he didn't actually do anything.. unsavory. My personal relationships are this simple- they had a misunderstanding, a miscommunication- it's a simple issue. I believe in sorting things out, and moving forward. I don't see anything wrong with proposing while unveiling the truth of the matter, au contraire, I think it'd make quite a funny story down the line. Considering the fact that she walked out on him without trying to pry/discuss the issue, it was my assumption that they were simply the sort of couple who 'breaks up' to give one another space when things get heated. Not the strongest foundation for a marriage, but hey, whatever floats your boat- wood, cork, styrofoam... (;

If you're a jealous woman, you need counseling. Trust issues are major, and no one wants a controlling bitch for a wife. I hide nothing from my husband, and I don't get jealous when a woman pops up on his facebook page. He doesn't need to marry her: He needs to get her help and counseling anywhere before that. This won't be the last time this pops up.

Well, we definitely have two different perspectives on what kind of experience that proposal would be. Hopefully he could get a better idea of what would be best for his own relationship with different outlooks given ^_^ Although on a second note, I wouldn't be surprised if he had some idea of how he wanted to propose to her already, since he's to the point of buying the specific ring; if it is as simple as you suspect, perhaps he should not alter his entire idea for their engagement over this argument. Huzzah! The more well-rounded the outlooks, the better the outcome, hopefully!

See, now I disagree with that. Some people are inherently more jealous/needier. That doesn't automatically make them a 'controlling bitch,' it makes them a human being. I have two dogs, both raised well (my father is a career Schutzhund trainer.) and bought from trusted/AKC-verified breeders- well loved dogs who have never experienced any trauma or misguidance. If I get down and pet one, the other will immediately come over and butt-in, at times even going so far as to strike out at the other dog. Should I bring my dogs to therapy? No, they are dogs, and they have basic and instinct-driven emotions- one of those emotions being jealousy. I am also honest with my partner, and when women post on his Facebook wall I do not fret. However, at times, I will get an inkling of doubt, or insecurity in the relationships/trust we have. I simply voice my concerns to my beau, we discuss what brought the issue to the surface, and I neutralize the negative thoughts with logic. Relationships take work, and I believe this is an understandable issue. What if OP and his girlfriend did indeed have a relationship with open communication: what if he had his hands full but needed to contact someone, and she was simply scrolling through his contacts to call someone for him? Perhaps 'Mom'? I imagine that were your husband suddenly not-so-willing to communicate with you on an issue, you would certainly wonder why that could be. Some people go through their lives blissfully untouched, and their first-thoughts may be much more innocent. Others are not so lucky, and I don't see anything wrong with learning from experience. As with all FML submissions, there are just too little details to know the whole story. CRC, I agree, hopefully OP will be able to sort this out and 'get the girl.'