Stranger danger

By john doe - 07/12/2013 17:29 - United States - Portland

Today, my 6 year-old daughter got mad at me for not buying her yet another expensive doll. I had to pull her away, and she started screaming for help. The next thing I know, another shopper puts me in a chokehold and calls for security, all while my daughter smirks. FML
I agree, your life sucks 53 058
You deserved it 6 210

Same thing different taste

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Oh man if I ever did this, this comment wouldn't even exist.

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to 11# screw Christmas being canceled I have had my butt whipped until I was in tears then I be put on my knees for ten minutes in a corner in my room while I don't you should do that extreme a good couple swats or a day in Juvi might fix her

kate3101 15

I'm shocked at the number of comments here advocating violence against a 6-year-old. "Belting" and "beating" is abuse. Sorry, it just is. It's also illegal in my country. The law in the UK allows for "reasonable chastisement", with the rule of thumb being that anything that leaves a lasting mark is not reasonable - so open-hand spanking is your limit, and even then can be up for debate. There do have to be limits and the odd spanking won't do lasting harm, but if your go-to punishment is violence, then what's your answer going to be when the kid is bigger than you and you don't scare them any more? If you need to bully, beat and threaten your children for them to respect you, you are pretty much doing it wrong. OP, your daughter is horribly spoilt, but that is not her fault. Stop buying her stuff. I wonder what you were doing in a toy store with a small child anyway if you didn't intend to buy her anything - that's just asking for trouble. She needs to learn and she'll only do that if you toughen up. You can be firm without reducing yourself to the child's level and turning it into a fight.

growing up I got my butt whooped everytime I missbehaved and I turned out perfectly normal never been arrested never done any drugs never stole anything and most importantly learned to have respect for others especially for my parents

kate3101 15

The "I got spanked and it never did me any harm" argument is pretty common. It's like people who smoke 3 packs a day and live to be 95 - just because doing something that is generally not considered healthy or right doesn't harm you, doesn't mean it should be common practice. I'm pretty sure the kids who left school at age 12 and worked 3 jobs would say it didn't do them any harm. Same for the kids who were beaten with canes and belts for sassing their parents. Does this mean it's ok? Times change, and the days when the answer to poor behaviour was violence are passing rapidly. I always found when raising my children that they responded best to an aloof approach to tantrums. Walk away (keep an eye on them, but try not to let them see you doing that). For other poor behaviour, firmness and reason were just as effective as spanking and less likely to end in tears. My kids are just fine. Well-mannered, studious and very smart. Treating a child like a person rather than a dog works wonders.

Almost... Spanking is as ineffective on dogs as it is on children. Recent studies have shown positive re-enforcement and ignoring bad behavior to be universally the best approach in both cases.

My children are well mannered, studious and very smart. I was able to reason with them about their behaviour and rarely had problems. They were not spoiled because there was no money to spoil them with so there was never an opportunity for that to become an issue. This does not make me some kind of parental superhero - nor does it make you one. My kids were like that because it was a natural part of their personality, so parenting them was EASY. Yet I still spanked them (lightly and rarely) when they deserved it. Calling a spanking "violence" is simply asinine. A reasonable parent knows the difference between discipline and abuse

kate3101 15

I'm not claiming to be a parenting superhero or to know The Great Secret. What I'm saying is that the people referring to "beating" and "whipping" the OP's 6-year-old are implying some pretty nasty violence against a very young child. That's not asinine - when you hit someone, you are committing an act of violence. It's a loss of control and should be the last resort, not the first, in my opinon.

My mother would have raced her to the tantrum to humiliate her in front of all those people over-exaggerating the whole scene back to her. First and last tantrum before having a chance to open your mouth. She also liked to make a habit to point out to us all the other misbehaving kids we would see and tell us what we could expect if we were ever to act as they did. If it got to the point where someone had to put my mother in a choke-hold, i wouldn't even dare to smirk. With what that woman could do mentally, it made physical punishment seem like sunshine and puppies. This kid sounds like she has it waaay too easy in any event. Whether OP punishes her or not, life will do it's own smirking on the brat if she keeps it up.

While I understand all the "cancel Christmas" posts, I am a bit disappointed. I would think that if you can't discipline your child with the fear of a livid mother (and that alone!), then you're doing something wrong. They should know what boundaries are okay to push, as we all do while growing up, but they should know that there is a line you do not EVER cross.

wildflawas 6

time to set boundaries for d lil brat, or get ready to be sent to jail in near future by your lil manipulator!

not only can you punish her, get the shopper for battery

Im sorry OP you have the worst child ever. I HATE kids. And I mean HATE! Im only 14 but my entire childhood I never got along with kids my age because they were all so dam immature and brats. Kids think they can do whatever they want, I wish I wasn`t 14 still because people still look at me as a child and brat but im not! But anyways yeah OP your child can go to hell im sorry what happened to you.

No it's their fault for letting their child act that way

Welcome to the new entitled generation.

Someone puts me in a chokehold, and they are getting punched right in the face. Repeatedly.

The problem here is in the "yet another expensive doll". On the other hand, you definitely should have "fessed up" to her "not being your kid" and moved on without her. If she would miss you, whatever, and if not, great!