If they're into a relationship that takes S&M to the level that "safewords" are required, it kinda is a big deal. It takes a lot of trust to get into the heaviest kink in S&M where you actually require safewords, and to be panicked by a "I love you" is actually kinda dangerous.

We'll some people just get freaked out when bring told I love you including me. And it's not dangerous. I could actually love you and you could know that but hearing the words still freak me out... Calm down there ^

Even minor kinks sometimes require safe words. They let participants know to stop, as something has gone wrong, even if it's just a mild kink. Truly heavy kinks require absolute trust, as communication may not be constantly possible.

Safewords are not only used when the play gets dangerous. It could just be that one party isn't liking something, or just gets a cramp after being tied up for too long.

But if she do, everybody happy.

It should be about love first? 50 Shades is to blame? I call major bullshit. The BDSM acts OP and his girlfriend are doing may have nothing to do with sex. I for one, started out as a rope enthusiast. Traditional Shibari, which is what I started out with, is an artistic use of rope without sexual overtones. Sure it can graduate that way, but it's not necessary. Loving someone that you're tying up is most definitely not a requirement, even when you're doing it erotically. Trust, yes. Love, no. I've since moved on to other things in the scene and made some great friends and partners. But I haven't loved any of them. Maybe I never will. It sure as hell isn't required by any means.

No.

Yes.

100 times yes!

Ahhahahaha :)