I'm not sure you should call 'raising kids' wasting your life... Some people do that by choice, even though they could have done other things. Most people do have more potential than just the one thing anyway...

#70 well I don't call raising kids "wasting your life", my family merely says that about my aunt. I don't really say anything about her, because I never see her, because she has four children and doesn't leave her house much. I was just saying that COULD be going on with Op, especially if she started having children very young.

That's the thing. It's easier for fathers to avoid the pointed finger, get on with their lives, and not put their future plans on hold, mainly because they're not the ones physically carrying the child. Granted, child support and other factors play a part, but the mother is *usually* the one who dedicates more time and physical effort in caring for the child (at least, that's what my observations of my high school friends have been). Of course, having a dedicated father figure in the child's life, regardless of mutuality between the mother and father, certainly helps.

I would have worded that "You are an adult, his point is irrelevant". Marriage is not the deciding factor in whether or not she has to listen to or obey her father...

Idiots prattling on about overpopulation want "everybody else" to control their family size or get sterilized. They have no intention of sterilizing themselves. They should practice what they preach.

i dont really see how the issue of overpopulation is theoretical. in china, people are only allowed to have 1 child per family now due to the excessive birth rates there. not to mention how the world population has increased tremendously over the last decade or so. it seems more like fact than theory in my opinion.

It's theoretical that overpopulation will one day be a world wide problem. As of now it isn't. We can guess based on calculations that overpopulation will ONE DAY be a world wide problem, but we can't predict the future. For all we know, there will be a an epidemic or natural disaster that will devastate the humpback human population, or they're is some other factor that hasn't been taken into account. But this OP wants her child. That is not theoretical, and no one should begrudge her get happiness based on something that MIGHT happen.

Also, you mentioned China's population control program. Has it occurred to you that there's a reason China's the only nation in the world with such a program? It's because, like I said, millions of children have been abandoned and left to die slow and painful deaths as a result. What is the point of preventing possible suffering in the future, if it causes suffering in the here and now? Likewise, what's the point in giving OP grief if there's no guarantee her actions will cause problems in the future, and if they create joy in the here and now? And sorry about all the errors in my above comment. I wrote it in a hurry and didn't have time to edit it. Stupid Swype.