By themarrowguy - 23/08/2013 10:06 - United States

Today, after recently discovering that I need a bone marrow transplant, my girlfriend got tested to see if she could be a donor. When the results came back with a negative match, she blurted out, "Oh thank god." FML
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She still got tested. I think she would have gone through with it if she was indeed a match, but anyone (including myself) would be dreading the surgery.

AnthonyWheeler15 24

It was a nice gesture that she tested to see if she could, but that wasn't really a proper response, even if she was afraid to go through with the procedure. Good luck finding a doner OP!

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ouch, that must've felt like shit.. I wish I was near you OP as I swear I would've done the test to see if I was a match and be the donor just to see the look on that ****'s face (for those who are gonna say how can I say that about her, I know she've done the test but that was some shitty insensitive thing to say to her "boyfriend").

Well sometimes you just cannot control yourself. Nobody's perfect, and one mistake doesn't mean she's a horrible person. I had leukemia and my family had to be tested for bone marrow transplant too, an if one of them had reacted like that, that would have hurt, sure, but I'm sure I would have ended up understanding and forgiving. People can be so judgmental around here... Anyway, good luck finding a donor op, and I wish you recover fast.

69, (to me) you're coming across just as insensitive. Giving false hope. I doubt you truly mean your offer to this stranger. I hope the OP reads your comment and comes knocking on your door looking for you to keep your "promise".

chillnhill 24

Best wishes! Hopefully you will find a match and come out OK. I likely have one of those in my future as well.

conqueror57 11

I hope all of you people hoping he finds a match soon are going out signing up for the bone marrow registry. The more of us there are, the better his chances of finding a match.

I have to agree with 76. You always hear about donating to breast cancer, but rarely other cancers. I heard of DKMS only once on NPR and never have heard anything for it again. It is a good program to register for. If you go to getswabbeddotorg, they send you a registration pack. It can truly save someone's life. *I do not represent this organization in any way. I just feel it is a great organization that needs to be just as prominent as Susan G. Komen foundation.

I don't think it's a FML. Your girlfriend apparently was ready to undergo some very unpleasant procedure to help you. It's only natural for her to feel at least a moment of relief when she found out she won't have to.

Don't get mad at her, most people are terrified of being donors. The fact she at least got tested means if she was a match she would have.

I am sorry op. but that is a very painful procedure, so I can understand. I am sure she would of gone through with it had it been positive.

she probably would have gone through with it if she was a match. but I would be glad for an instant too if I found out I wouldn't be having a massive needle put into a bone.... one of the most painful medical procedures out there I hear... all the best for you though. hope you find a match.