That's happened to me at work, repeatedly. Except my employer won't do anything about it.

#55: That's because it's not illegal to talk to the cashier at a store.

Oog. Regardless of how wise the decision to give the guy your hours were (and I know how you can just sort of put your brain on automatic when working through a retail day; I can't condone your action, but I understand it), my sympathies. Freaky people at work just suck, especially when they follow you elsewhere. When I worked at a bakery, I had a woman wait across the street for four hours for me to get off, at which point she followed me onto the subway and asked me to be her new mommy. If I wasn't a writer, I'd be in therapy.

#57: Then you're a wuss. That doesn't make me scared. It makes me sad. What sort of circumstances led this person to behave that way? Whatever it was must have sucked hard enough to warrant AT LEAST a post on this site. It's not fair for people to foist their problems on you this way, but at some point, we have to take care of each other or we're doomed (as a species).

Don't do anything to make him feel like he has a chance with you. Don't be friendly, ignore him as much as possible. Ask your coworker what she has tried so far. Make sure nobody gives him information about you.

ok soo your boss knows the guy is a stalker and doesn't...i dunno...call the cops? or at least do something about it other than just warning you? FYL indeed. give him the wrong hours. and #10 that is really creepy i feel so bad for all the people who have to put up with this type of crap =/

Alright, Thuryn. You've posted on this FML a lot and I finally have to say something. There is quite a chance of the OP overreacting and being paranoid, but she clearly states that a) the man had stalked a co-worker and the manager thought the situation was severe enough to warn her about it, and b) he has been asking for her schedule for weeks. After a few days of asking (to which I assume the OP is NOT telling him her hours, or else he wouldn't be asking anymore), it becomes creepy. And she's obviously uncomfortable. No matter what the man in question thinks, if he is making a woman uncomfortable, it becomes harassment and is NOT okay. The same would be valid if the situation was switched around. If someone continually harasses an employee about his or her schedule, to which he or she presumably doesn't answer (which is an obvious sign of discomfort and should have let the customer know that she wasn't interested in him), it's not alright. And if it has been going on for more than a couple of days, I think it was perfectly valid for the OP to call it 'stalking'. I would too. What you don't seem to understand is that in this society, women can't just give everyone the benefit of the doubt. The odds are against us. There are way too many creepers, perverts, and maniacs out there for women NOT to be paranoid. And it seems like the customer doesn't care about her discomfort or her disinterest, which shows you that he's not the kind of guy that's going to respect her later on. So you may call it 'persistence', but I - along with the majority of women, I'm sure - consider it incredibly disrespectful, uncomfortable, and honestly quite scary. I quite respect you for trying to see the good in people, especially after your post #58, but today it's just unsafe to assume that all people have good intentions. Sad, but true. She never acted bitchy to him, which she deserves credit for, and his behavior is simply not okay. You said you have a problem with people who are afraid of others being friendly, but this is not simply "being friendly". He has been approaching her for weeks. That's something else entirely. To the OP: Honestly, get some legal help, lie about your hours, whatever it takes. Do not encourage him, but on the other hand, do not be a bitch to him - like someone else said, it could cause him to get nasty and, in an extreme case, become violent. Just protect yourself, be aware, and FYL for sure.

WTF u didnt think it was sketchy the first 20 times he asked u????? Better lock your doors tonight

your boss is a major douche for not calling the cops on this guy.....seriously, find another job

guys the op didnt say whether or not she told him her hours, so stop saying "youre stupid for giving out that info YDI". =.= thats scary :( i agree with #62. get legal help.