Definitely not a YDI, but you should have seen it coming. @ ohnoitslindsay: So in order to shake someone's hand at work, I have to get express permission from them stating "yes, you may shake my hand"? That seems quite unnecessary. Because if so, I have been violated dozens of times and should be able to sue anyone who has ever shaken my hand at work. right? Also, if you would read the comments you would have noticed that OP said the spider was on the woman's shoulder. NOT breasts. And he did have a reason. And your argument about the homosexual male thing is just incredibly dumb. To parallel the situation OP was in, it would have had to be a woman touching a man in the chest area. Not the groin. But I do congratulate you on completely twisting someone's story. Good job!

Whoever clicked report abuse on #1 is a bitch, and just jealous because THEY weren't #1.

now-a-days you can't touch anyone without there being some hoopla about it. you should have told her there was a spider and then if she wanted/needed your help, proceed to feel her up/get rid of the spider, lmao

Wow look at what we've become trying to get a spider off of someone is now sexual harassment, or performing CPR on someone, Jeez and #57 lol.

i understand your good deed, but you should've said something before brushing your coworker. does your mouth not work?

You're supposed to say something before you touch anyone, duh.

typical girls and their 0 sex drive. When was the last time a girl asked a stranger for sex. Admittedly a guy wouldn't ask a girl that to avoid sexual harassment charges =D I told a girl if I had a girlfriend id need her to give head... and she wanted to go out with me... I probably should have waited till we were going out..but I considered it a waste of time if I didn't get any being a sexually deprived guy

How could you not like say something before you do it..

I would love to know where the OP said it was on her shoulder, because I didn't see that anywhere. How in the hell is it considered sexual harassment if it's on her shirt, but not her boobs? And wouldn't she see him starring at her shirt? Unless it was on her back, which still doesn't explain how she could say it was sexual harassment. I think all of this could have been avoided by either 1) telling the co-worker about it, or 2)FLICKING it off, instead of brushing which could be confussed with a rub that's in a sexual manner.

#21 should probably be incorporated into the first post (although you can generally see if the op has made any clarifications in the comments by ctrl+f-ing their name). For future reference though, you can touch a woman's elbow without any risk of sexual harassment charges, so next time wait until the spider gets there. (: You still should have said something, but her response was still too extreme to justify a YDI. If we're going to say he should have said something, why didn't she ask him why he had just touched her shoulder before springing sexual harassment claims? Also, the sexual harassment claim could mean that she find him attractive (and therefore interprets his actions as more sexually motivated, wishful thinking) just as easily as it could mean she finds him unaatractive or creepy.