need to ask advice from a real man. thats not gonna solve your problem to be. YDI

I have no sympathy for you OP. You cheated on your fiancé. I have no respect for cheaters. Yet what your dad said was dick move too. YDI.

Sorry op, but you get no sympathy from me. Being drunk is hardly an excuse. And if you follow your dad's advice, you really do deserve whatever comes your way.

Yeah, except he would cheat on her to begin with he's probably too selfish to give up drinking or probably doesn't have the self control to only have one or two.

Take responsibility for what you did and own up to it. She deserves to know, and don't make any excuses for what happened, like oh, it was because I was drunk. But be ready, she may forgive you and give you a second chance, but she won't forget. She'll have some new insecurities, most likely. As such, you're going to have to be ready and willing to make some changes, like hanging up the alcohol and less guys nights and/or no more going to bars or late-night parties, etc. not saying you can't enjoy life or leave the house anymore, but there's more to life than partying it up. And yeah, you will get frustrated with it, and when you do, and you feel like getting angry, just remember why she's acting like that and what you're working for, and what's more important to you. If you love her, you'll bite your tongue in those situations. It will take time, probably lots, years even, but with genuine effort on your end her wounds will heal. Although don't get me wrong, I'm not saying what you did is an excuse for her to treat you like total shit in the process.

You're wrong and so is your Dad. If his advices were any good, you wouldn't be posting this in order to get advice from strangers. Since you know you're wrong, you know you should talk to her and let her know exactly what happened. Some young men do dumb things like that when they're drinking and are influenced by their so called friends. If that's the case, break up with your friends now! Whoever doesn't respect your relationship with someone that makes you happy, doesn't deserve to get any attention from you. I'm taking my time to write this to you because I forgave my boyfriend after lying to me while drunk and under the influence of his colleagues. It took me a week to do this, though. The reason I got mad at him was because lying is as bad as cheating, in my opinion. Now I told you about this brief situation so you know there's a chance of her forgiving you if she believes you are already changing. A lot of people explained what you should do if you still want to be with her: get tested for STDs, talk to her, explain what really happened, quit drinking, break up with your friends if they're involved, seek for help (therapist, psychologist), tell her everything about your day, do NOT feel angry when she brings this up, do the things she likes you to do (like getting a wild flower in the way to her home, buying her a small surprise wherever you go just so she knows you were thinking about her), and most important, if your parents don't support your relationship, do NOT talk to them about it or get advice from them. Now, if she doesn't forgive you, respect her decision. If you don't get to be together anymore, respect this and try to move on. Live your own life and do not get involved with anyone until your wounds heal, or you'll end up screwing up again. And remember, whatever happens, do NOT make that mistake with anyone else in your life. Hope everything works out for the best.

Wow it's sucks what you did but you can move on. Also I'm not saying it makes it okay but I guess not a lot of people are ever truly drunk here! People make mistakes when they are drunk, it happens. Your mistake is just bigger. I won't say you're a jerk or anything. Just tell the truth and don't drink again.

Keep it to yourself. The only thing worse than a cheating spouse is knowing about it. You can glue a broken vase together again but it will always be a broken vase. Call off wedding. You'll do it again.

Wow, like father like son. By the sounds of his comment he is an excellent role model. And you my friend are a douche

Hope your fiancée finds out and dumps you. You worthless scumbag