By Anonymous - 17/01/2016 07:26 - United States - Blair

Today, I found out that the only reason I'm alive is because my dad beat the living shit out of my mom to stop her getting an abortion. FML
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nickie_94 18

Did he not realize he could've caused her to have a miscarriage? You really are lucky to be alive after that

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siham_andalous 12

He used violence to force her into having a child. Don't get me wrong, I'm glad you're alive, but your father is disgusting.

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RebeccaRFT 18

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SuperMew 22

This is the issue I have with this. Yes, it was half his DNA, but its not in his body. He is not the one who has to carry it. It is not fair, but it never will be. The woman has the say if and when she is going to have a baby. If a woman gets 500 abortions, it is still not your place to play the baby police.

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GhostFox 33

"Unless the father is on board"? Yeah, because **** a person's right to not have to carrying a fetus to term, inside their body, for a full pregnancy term and have to deal with all the health issues that result. **** a person's right to control their own body. And don't worry if the person didn't have a say in whether a contraceptive was used, it's not like people ever engage in sex without asking for the other person's permission or their opinion on whether to use a contraceptive. Oh, wait, that does happen. And people also intentionally use damaged contraceptives. So how about instead of requiring the "permission" of someone who can walk away at any time from the pregnancy and may not have had the person's code to, we let people decide whether THEY want to carry a fetus to term? Because the person that has to carry a pregnancy to term is the one that deals with the damage done to their life- health wise (emotional, physical, and mental) and socially. The person who contributed the sperm doesn't have to deal with their hormones being yanked around. They don't have to deal with their organs shifting, gaining weight, their feet flattening. They don't have to deal with hours of nausea, cravings for food, or mood swings. They don't have to spend potentially days in labour, only to be rewarded by having to care for a child that may remind them of their attacker, or be ill, or die from health issues. They don't lose hours of work or school or recreation to sleep to accommodate the energy lost, and then hours more to recovering from birth, and then even more to caring for the resulting infant. They don't have to deal with the social stigma of being a single parent, or of being pregnant young, or a reputation for being "a ****." So, no, I have to disagree that a person should need the permission of anyone except for themself to have an abortion, because the person who would otherwise have to carry that pregnancy to term has the most to lose. Denying them that choice because someone who's possibly only contribution to the effort was the sperm required for fertilization says they don't 'want' the other to have an abortion isn't just stupid, it is cruel.

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BooBooKittyF11 21

only reason im here is because my mom doesnt belive in abortion

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noellebelle626 19

Thank goodness she didn't miscarry. I can understand he did want the abortion but doing that to her was uncalled for

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dyne808 34

For everyone saying the mother shouldn't have had sex in the first place and the dad was just doing the right thing, have you every considered that he might have sexually assaulted her? If he's violent enough to beat the shit out of his pregnant wife I wouldn't put it past him to force her into intercourse either.

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wow2mylife 25

I think it's okay if they are married but if not it will be uncalled for

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Rainbow_Princess 16

My daughter knows that I considered having an abortion but that I just couldn't do it. She understands that sometimes having a baby is not the best outcome and guess what she knows that I love her 100% and always have. She also understands that forcing someone to have a child is morally wrong and that what your father did to your mother is monstrous. If my minor aged child can bet it... why can't adults??

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bapbap_fml 15

Can't say I blame her for not wanting a child with an abusive sack of crap like that.

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mwali02 32

I'm surprised that the comment section on this post is not closed. So sorry for your experience OP. I hope that you and your family are living safely.

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GhostFox 33

Your father is an asshole OP, and I'm sorry that he used you as an excuse to 'justify' his abuse of your mother. I'm sorry that the situation surrounding your conception and gestation was such an unfortunate one. I can't say I approve of what your father did, because it'd be a lie, so I'll be honest and say that the situation surrounding your conception and gestation don't define you. I hope that you can make some kind of peace with the knowledge and that your sense of self worth is not irreparably damaged by it. I wish you the best.

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