Didn't you read the FML? The daughter is already waiting to came. On a serious note, I have nothing better to do than attempt to make a joke here......

Yeah...a hymen, or the lack of one, doesn't indicate virginity. Only ignorance perpetuates the belief that virgins must have an intact hymen.

and why would it matter? If you are willing to give yourself that completely to someone, yet they don't believe you when you tell them something, I don't think theyre the right person.

Agreed with 39. After all, there's no evidence required on the part of the boy.

And why should the guy care if it's actually her first time? It's relevant if she's new to sex, because that means he should take it slowly and be especially attentive to her level of comfort, but there isn't really that much difference between the first time and the second time. Is this more of that "purity" nonsense? Men love to think that their penises change women's states of being but the truth is that it doesn't (except when pregnancy happens). Penises don't even change a woman's hymen if sufficient foreplay and lube is used. Besides, it's creepy as hell that guys would want to be a girl's first while believing that the first time necessarily hurts her. These men get off on hurting women and that's messed up. But yeah, the first time doesn't have to hurt. If it starts to hurt, the penetration should stop and more foreplay and/or lube should be introduced as needed unless

Any man that will drop a woman for not being a virgin, is a douche.

That actually happened to me with my first time. I broke it through experimentation and when I finally had sex the guy accused me of lying "because I didn't bleed". And in fact, he WAS a douche.

62- the idea that hurting people during sexual acts as bad just adds to the stigma of bdsm being a wrong thing

Your "hymen" doesn't actually break.

Well the first time I had sex there was no bleeding at all. Still painful yes, I figured the first I used a tampon broke my hymen since it was extremely uncomfortable I may have angled it wrong or something never bothered me like that again once I got the hang of it. Just a personal theory.

no like you literally don't break your hymen. it doesn't break. if they get your period it's already got a hole in it. also meaning your first time SHOULD NOT HURT

My first time hurt a little, maybe he was larger than average but it took two tries and a lot of patience to get it in. After I was kinda sore, I wouldn't say it's painful but I also wouldn't say it's painless. Also maybe break isn't the right term but hymens can tear and bleed. Your hymen doesn't always cover the entire opening allowing you to have your period.

I watched a BDSM video from Laci Green once. It was full of misinformation. The only thing good thing about it was that she misinformed in a sex positive way.

71, exactly which misinformation was it full of? I saw the Laci Green BDSM videos (I believe she has two now), and both videos have healthy and smart information for the target age group of young adults looking to experiment with BDSM play. If you're pissy because the videos weren't as comprehensive as they could have been; you might want to keep in mind that those new to the lifestyle or activities don't necessarily want every fetish and kink in the book thrown at them at once. BDSM is not one size fits all, and has a unique interpretation to every person who experiences it. Laci did a great job of distinguishing BDSM from abuse and giving examples of some of the implements and fetishes involved. I fail to see how any part of that represents misinformation to the target audience.

#71 as someone whose been in the lifestyle for a good few years I found her videos pretty good for newbies who want to just dabble and want avoid the awful way 50 shades portrayed their abusive relationship masquerading as BDSM. But either way, that's really irrelevant to the point of the OPs daughters misinformation about hymens and sex.