So what did you say to her?

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What concerns me is that removing the hymen won't even help. Sex can hurt the first time because the woman isn't used to having a penis in her ****** and it is uncomfortable at first. Removing her hymen won't affect anything.

As others are saying, you need to sit down and have a long talk with her about sex, her body and maybe about relationships with boys. Just be active and give her the information she needs and then she'll go from there, hopefully. Even if she did want the surgery, she wouldn't be able to get it without consent and even then it's goofy. Hopefully she'll forget about it in a month and with talking to her, hopefully see it as a stupid idea

Time to have the sex talk and educate her about her body. She is too young to be seriously considering sex, but 14 year old do it all the time. Education is power and she needs to know the risks sex, especially at a young age, can pose. You might want to also take a look at the book "Come as you are: the surprising new science that will transform your sex life" by Emily Nagoski. It really helps women become more comfortable in their own bodies. Obviously don't encourage her to have sex right now, but the book can be a useful tool to supplement "the sex talk"

The daughter could have been in a more comprehensive sex ed class that covers topics like that, or she could have heard it from a friend. Not all sex ed classes are abstinence only education like it seems you had. I unfortunately had abstinence only and didn't even know what a hymen was until I was almost 13.

The post surgery pain will be a lot worse than the first time having sex.

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Well, how long do you think she'll have to save for? Silver lining maybe?