I know the feeling, my girlfriend does the same. But what eased my feelings about it is that drunk people are always honest. Don't forget that the next time he's drunk and says he loves you, OP.

Get some kind of counseling, or get a self help book, or go to an Al-Anon meeting... But, seriously, if you are only getting what you need from him when he's drunk, then you need to see why you don't like yourself as much as you should and move on. I know that's pretty glib advice coming from someone just typing here, but, seriously, been there, done that. You're better off without him.

are you that insecure that you have to feed your boyfriend alcohol to get him to say I love you? while I do not know you, you deserve someone who loves you for who you are and not because he is cocked out of his mind. respect yourself girl........

maybe he does love you but something emotionally prevents him from saying it sober

At least he says it

That sucks OP. Try and find a family support group for yourself - and him. In the UK there is Families Anonymous and Adfam - I don't know about the US but do some googleing. Take care

Are you sure you're actually dating him?

Correct me if I am wrong but don't you deserve it? Last I checked you were allowed to choose who your boyfriend was.

We'll at least you know he loves you because people usually say what they mean while they are drunk but I think you should put your ego aside and help him. If he got counseling he may end up saying it sober and you'd be saving his life.

Hmmmmmmmmmmmm enabler, you are. Explode soon his liver will.