well im guessing he didn't just fly of the handle because of a polite request you were probably all bitchy about it probably something along the lines of "do you seriously think you're wearing that to dinner?" YDI

Here is the problem I have with you RC. You said "where I was raised" as if it is the most important thing. I was raised not to dress pretentiously, I was told to dress how I was comfortable. Clothing styles change with society, where you grew up and the type of culture you are present to. Your boyfriend was forced to change and while he might like it, you still forced your opinions on him. You would be in the same boat as Op if your boyfriend had taken offense to it. This is what I have been trying to say, just because it worked on the guy you are with does not mean it will work on others and does not mean you had the right to change him. Yes, events you went to and invited him to should have the proper dress code but still, in the end its annoying, pretentious and rude to imply you know better than someone else. You aren't his doctor or mother, you do not have the right to dress him or treat him as a child. I had a boyfriend who told me to stop dressing like a "boy" and a "****." The "boy" clothing was a hoody I had and a pair of jeans. It was 50* and we were doing farm work for school. He expected me to ruin perfectly good clothing just to make him look good. The "****" clothing was a 1 piece bathing suit my grandmother (catholic and very religious) bought for me. I told him no and he broke up with me. No matter why you suggested the clothes, you still made it obvious that your way was better.

He wanted to represent the rainbow

somehow I doubt this is the whole story. it's not always what you say but more about how you say it.

my gaydar senses are tingling..

He's actually my fiance not my boyfriend so it's a bigger deal than just me telling a boyfriend something. I'm not going to marry a slob and as my soon to be husband I have every right to have him change certain things about himself, just as he has the right to change certain things about me. No serious relationship or marriage will ever work without some sacrifices on both ends. He's an adult and he should look like one. I know it won't work for everyone but one of my "needs" is a guy that takes pride in his appearance. If he had a problem he most certainly could have left or I probably would have dumped him. I have expectations that adults should dress like adults. If you're out of high school and you dress sloppy and like trash, then that says you as a person are sloppy and trashy and don't care anything about your appearance. I get that if you're just running a couple errands or working or something that you won't always dress "nice" which is fine, but if you're going out to eat or shopping or something like that you should dress nicer. That could be a nice looking fitted tshirt with jeans, but not the baggy gender neutral tshirt. Those just look bad and trashy. But I guess it's just a difference of opinion. Just know the way you dress shows a lot about who you are as a person so dressing trashy...

YDI. Who made you the fashion police.

#3 Wins forever at everything. :)

most guys don't care (me included). who cares what other people think of them? it's a waste of time. but he did WAY over react.

I don't like you. As a person you seem obnoxious. Clothing is not the end of the world and why do people have to be judgmental. If you look at something someone wears and call them trashy, then that makes you a negative, judgmental person.