I agree, isn't that the point, this was her response when he tried to talk about it with her. I feel really bad for him.

the wife does not seem interested in talking..

I know he tried talking to her, but do you think she might respond better if they had the talk using... wait for it... sock puppets? I'll see myself out.

you misread, it's the guy getting the shit end of the stick.

I was thinking the same xD

He might've not known, people's sex drives can sometimes disappear, especially during times of stress. Marriages are meant to be mutually supportive and enjoyable, if one person feels let down by the other, in this case sexually, it should be up to both of them to sort it.

#49, I said that she could be asexual. And if op went in knowing she doesn't like sex, then she doesn't have to do anything sex related. Because if they both went into the marriage understanding that she doesn't want sex, then she went into a marriage expecting sex to be off the table. As hard as it is to believe, some don't like sex.

Since when did my people become the "Get Out of Sex Free" card?

#41, you're just plain wrong here. First of all, TONS of women lose interest in sex at some point after getting married, often due to menopause or other hormonal changes. So your doubt regarding sex that was previously frequent suddenly stopping is entirely ridiculous. Second, being asexual is no excuse for being a disrespectful harpy. Lack of respect will kill a marriage almost as fast as a lack of communication. It's simply disrespectful to dismiss someone so thoroughly and call them a fuckstick when they're trying to discuss what they want out of the relationship. Functional relationships absolutely do not work this way. Third, if she feels so strongly that asexuality is such a fundamental part of her identity, while her husband clearly does not, why would you be against divorce? Sometimes people figure out that they're simply not compatible. There's no shame in that, but it's also no reason to stay in a marriage that obviously isn't working. You can try to say that maybe it's all gravy besides the sex, but her massively disrespectful attitude toward the person who's supposed to be her best friend and life partner proves otherwise. Last, even assuming that she has a good reason for acting that angry and rude, divorce is still probably a good idea for a relationship where at least one partner no longer respects the other.

found the feminist. if the roles were reversed, your tune would be too. you're right, she doesn't have to care about her partners needs, and he doesn't , under any circumstancea, as a human being deserve to be neglected or abused.

Yeah 41 I think you're reaching here. For one thing I haven't read a comment yet that suggested he get a divorce because is wife won't put out. Were saying get a divorce because she speaks to OP like he's a piece of shit. Second you can't really base an argument against assuming its the wife's fault

On a platform of assuming its the OPs fault. And lastly I agree there are too many excuses because its wife insulting husband and if the roles were reversed and he said have at it **** wed be in a ******* uproar.

This. I can't be the only one who wonders if OP is selfish in bed, isn't pulling his weight in the relationship but still expects romance, feels entitled to be able to treat his wife like a coin-op sex machine, or something else like that that'd warrant anger/frustration in return. That's not a normal response to "let's talk about our relationship"; I suspect there's ongoing issues that we're not aware of.

Exactly what I was thinking. You don't call someone a fuckstick unless you're pretty upset with them. Maybe there are other problems in the relationship that need to be addressed before she feels like putting out.

If he's doing things which are bad enough to merit this response, divorce is a real possibility, and maybe even the correct one. If he's not doing anything wrong, then this level of disrespect alone means the relationship is headed for divorce, like it or not. By all means, they should try counseling, but if even one partner disrespects the other this much, counseling is going to be a real long-shot.

sooo, it can totally be the cae that a husband is an uncaring ass, but couldn't possibly be a woman just being an uncaring ass. either he sucks in bed or doesnt do dishes. and regardless of anything shed done, you'd never call this anything but abuse if hed done it. period.