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By Katie1921 - 09/02/2016 02:52 - United States - New York

Today, I tutored a third grade girl after school. She was squirming so much I thought she had to go to the bathroom. Turns out, she was just masturbating on the corner of a school chair. FML
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Hi guys- OP here! To answer a few questions and concerns people have said- 1. I did not tell the girl's parents - I do not have a close relationship with them other than a few "hi"s and talking about the girl's homework, also I am a high school student myself and I do not know how to handle that situation at all 2. I knew she was masturbating because she stuck her hands down her pants a few times anddd... I'm not gonna go into details, but it was pretty obvious

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these comments bother me. stuff like this has always happened we just didn't have things like the internet to share it. the kid might not have even known what she was doing, just that it felt good.

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How did a third grader learn about masturbation?

This is getting repetitive at this point but she most likely doesn't know what masturbation is and is just doing it because it's something that feels good to her. For an eight year old, it's probably no different to her than scratching an itch on her arm.

Babies have the ability to do this. Boys will start to play with their penis when they are being changed, girls will play at their vaginas in the tub, the same way they will play with toys. They don't know it's a private thing to do, they just know they enjoy it. As a parent, you just need to teach them, from an early age, that it is inappropriate to do such in public. That they should only touch those parts when they are by themselves. Otherwise it is completely normal and nothing to feel ashamed about. It sucks that her parents may not have explained this to her, and if you're comfortable with it, maybe you should tell her parents to talk to her about her publicly inappropriate behavior. If not, if she does it again, just tell her to be still.

ndnpride88 25

That is disturbing a child just doesn't learn to squirm on to corner of the chair and not know what she is doing. Did you mention it to her parents? Someone needs to have "the talk" with her.

I'm all for masturbation but that's just way too early...

I've lost faith in the younger generations

Goblin182 26

How did OP come to know the girl was masturbating?

Honestly when I first read this, I thought it said tortured.

Psycocharger 19

brb have to go vomit What. The. Hell. 3rd grade? What's that, 8-9 years old?

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It really isn't. Perhaps you should educate yourself about child development and common indicators of abuse. Aggressive or advanced sexual knowledge can be an indicator of abuse, but this would not qualify as either.

Actually I do know a lot about it since this happened to a family member of mine and I've taken a few child development classes :-) maybe you shouldn't talk down to people who you don't know the situation of.

While child abuse is real, and teachers (like me) and people (like me) who have multiple degrees in child development, and who work with children (like me) are regularly trained on signs of abuse, masturbation is definitely not one of those signs. Aggressive, constant masturbation (to the point where the child is injuring themselves or others) is definitely a red flag, but this (based on the scanty description provided) is most definitely not. Child welfare services are overburdened and poorly funded as it is. If you were to report every child who masturbated as a possible case of abuse, there would be no way they could investigate actual, legitimate, concerning cases and children who need help would not receive it. If you have taken any basic child development classes, then you have learned the simple fact that children function on the pleasure principle. They find something that feels good and they do it. Because their brains (and social skills) are still underdeveloped, they don't understand there is anything wrong with what they are doing. That is why, instead of judging, punishing, or assuming abuse, you talk to the child about "private, personal time" and teach them about their bodies.