By Medication - 12/10/2013 15:31 - United States
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I didn't have an account when I posted this, but I'm the OP, and honestly, during our drunken state, I mustered up enough sobriety to prevent things from going too far. I as well, didn't want to ruin things between us by having sex because I respected her too much, and wanted more than that. Was it the right thing to do, or was I just being a dumbass? One commenter was correct in stating that she was confused as to what she really wanted. Either way, we've talked it out, and moved over that. It's better anyways maybe, considering we both work together and I have to go on months long deployments with this girl, haha. :]
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**** it! Friends with benefits!!
it's her loss, really.
She's right. That's how you lose best friends. When you go for a relationship, quit, and then you start feeling much too awkward, even though you don't really want to go back into a relationship and have been brainwashed too society so that you believe that it wouldn't be proper to be friends again, especially not best friends. And then she's stuck wishing it were back to normal. I wish people would quit being such sheep in the aftermath of a relationship; they never listen.
ninety
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I don't think society necessarily believes it is wrong, but usually it hurts the person who wanted to stay in the relationship to see the other person as "just a friend" again.
Well OP, you guys were drinking. I know that she may have seemed interested because she slept with you, but you can't assume anything from things that happen when someone's drunk (Since you mentioned you guys were drinking, I'm not sure if you guys were drunk, I'm just taking a guess.) It gave you the courage to ask her out at least and find out if she wanted to be with you or not, but since she wants to be friends, I'd just continue to be friends with her. I know it hurts because of what happened and you secretly loving her, but she's right, why ruin a good friendship? You know? My boyfriend and I were friends for a while before we started dating, now we're completely different then when we were friends, I wish we weren't because I enjoyed our friendship, but I know us being together in a relationship would change things a lot.
olpally
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This has happened to me many times, forget her op. She'll never want you as more then a friend. Next!
If that's friends zone with this girl... I don't see why one would mind getting stuck in it lol
The friendzone hit you so hard you couldn't stand
Actually made an account just to comment on this... This is exactly where I am right now, had a crush on my best guy friend for almost a year, since I told him he's said "I don't wanna lose you as a friend", "I value our friendship too much" etc. I feel ya man. It sucks, but eventually it will heal. At least I hope so..
lmngrl889
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I don't know why u got voted down. I see nothing wrong with this comment!
ninety
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It will heal, and sometimes it will put your friendship into a better perspective.
HopeInBama
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I had a friend to tell me that he "couldn't stand to lose our friendship." I did have a slight crush on him, but I never came out and said it. Nor did I ever insinuate that I wanted to be more than friends. I honestly don't know how he knew. I worked so hard hiding it bc I knew he didn't feel the same. That was close to two years ago. We're still friends to this day. Matter of fact, we talked on the phone for over two hours last night. Yet, when he's drinking, he gets all sweet, flirty, and all with me. Yet he opens up about the things that he's going through in his life with work, females, etc. YET again, he's flirty with me. So tired of the mixed signals.
as a freind you will stay with her forever! think positive
nitrog100
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Well if you're willing to, the best thing you can do is cut the cord on that friendship. As much as it sucks it's better for you in the long run.
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welcome to the friendzone
So close.