No one deserves to be told "kill yourself" for any reason.

Especially by a parent. Very insensitive 54.

Very insensitive? Who's the one seeing another "wonderful" girl while still in a relationship?

You would make an excellent literature teacher; it seems you have the skill to read into things to a ridiculous degree that is required for the job.

I'm a writer. I try to get as many details as I can before I form an opinion and I try to understand every angle of something before I share it. You don't have to read too far into this fml to see that a father who suggests suicide when his son comes to him with a moral dilemma is probably a pretty terrible father with communication issues of his own. In most cases if you ask someone who cheated on a relationship, they will tell you they didn't know how to end the original relationship amicably and were afraid of a messy breakup so they just avoided the issue as long as they possibly could, usually just until they were caught. It isn't a good idea and it isn't healthy, but it does happen and it's no excuse for someone to suggest suicide, especially if that person is the parent of the other.

On a slightly unrelated note, I hated English Lit. in school. Symbolism and metaphors are good for some things, but I would much rather read five novels and learn things naturally than pick apart a book I didn't want to read in the first place.

Brianna, I'm pretty sure you're who I want to be when I'm older :D I've always wanted to be a writer and I totally agree with you about how reading 5 novels would be better than picking apart something crappy. Especially if it's a Novela. And I think the way of getting every detail in is the best thing to do before making a judgement.

Mm you're right I agree. Sorry if I came off as bitchy. The problem with evaluating fmls is that we're not given many details. And I have a tendency to take everything literally so it's about as 'deep' as a poem is for me, so not at all.

Sorry, I just have ZERO tolerance for cheaters. And to those who agree that there are reasons to cheat, ect. Have probably never actually been cheated on, or are/were cheaters. If it didn't hurt like hell, you probably didn't really love each other.

I've been cheated on. More than once. In a two year relationship. But honestly I think you're making this more personal for yourself. OP doesn't have a kid. We don't know how long OP has been with her. And he obviously feels bad. He just needs to be honest to both of them. Not to harm himself or shame himself and feel terrible. He feels bad enough. Now people like you are calling him an asshole and a cheater. Give advice, not judgement.

With the way his father reacted, I would not be surprised if OP did have a child.

Who knows though. Even if he did, killing himself isn't a solution. He just needs to be honest about his feelings to both women. They deserve that and so does he. It should be civil, not with all these words being thrown around and making him feel completely terrible to where he should die.

It's true I don't know his story. I'm simply telling mine because they are in fact similar. My baby's dad basically did the same thing twice! And maybe he doesn't have a child, but it still doesn't warrant cheating. Either way, I can't say so for his girlfriend, but I'm sure she might have trust issues as well in her future relationships, and OP has indeed made it that much harder for the other girl as well unless she knew OP was taken. If she did know OP had a gf and went for it then that that makes her a bitch. I agree that I did get a little personal but I can't help but feel bad for OPs girl, especially if there is a child involved, although there might not be. And to tell him to kill himself is over the top, but maybe the dad has opened OPs eyes even if it was in such a rude manner. I would hope his dad didn't mean it. I just hate hearing about cheaters and you already know how much it hurts as well since you said it has happened before to you. My point is, he put a huge strain in the gf and the friend, although to me it sounds like more than just friends. And if he can't be faithful why should he be dating when there are plenty of people out there who are single and yet they are the faithful ones? He shouldn't date if he can't be faithful to the one he's with.

I think everyone has just taken this a bit far. Yes, cheating is bad bad bad. It hurts. Its not cool. But we only know a sliver of this guy's story. Im just saying Im tired of hearing all this judgement when all OP needs is some sound advice and that is to be honest with both women, and if that means staying away from the second one to revisit his feelings for the first, or vise versa; break up and explore a new love.

I just gave some sound advice. If you can't be faithful to someone you are in a relationship with, don't date. It's as simple as that. The way OP worded this is that he does seem to have feelings for this other girl, so I think if he is in fact starting to develop feelings for this other chick, he needs to break it off with his girlfriend. Either way it goes, he did something wrong and if you were in the girlfriends shoes, can you honestly say you wouldn't mind if he seems to have feelings with another girl if you were dating him, especially if you have been cheated on? One thing leads to another and suddenly it won't just be feelings anymore. I just think if he cares about this other girl, and he has to ask his dad about his opinion in who he should be with, then it is best to call both the relationship with his gf off and maybe the other girls, if she doesn't know he is taken, and just be single until he understands that when you are with someone, THAT is who you are with. It may never said he actually cheated but he words it like he does like this other girl, that can lead to cheating and it's going to be even worse for all parties involved.

So ANGRY