esther, is that you?

I disagree. If you walk into a store or restaurant wearing a suit or business clothes, you will get better service (because you will be expected to spend more). Your dress is a huge indicator of how you might behave in certain situations. A woman has the right to dress as skanky as she wants, however she should expect the consequences of these actions. (I withhold judgment on the OP since I do not know what she was wearing) On the other hand, a woman dressing in completely appropriate and/or business-like attire can still be sexually harassed.

I agree to the extent that it is clearly not her fault. But I take issue with your comment that "any unwanted sexual advance is sexual harassment." So if a guy hits on you and you think he's hot, it's not sexual harassment but if you're not attracted to him it is? Good job fail boat.

You missed the point. It's not sexual harassment for a man to come up and ask to buy a woman a drink, of course. But if she politely declines or makes it clear she isn't interested, and he persists, it is harassment. Once is enough and a respectable man should back off. If he thinks she's just playing hard to get and decides to be an asshole then, yeah, it's harassment and rude as hell. In other news, married people should not hit on other people! Why the hell does anyone think this woman deserves it? She could be naked for all I care; he SHOULD NOT be hitting on someone else.

No woman deserves to have the "consequence" of being made to feel humiliated and uncomfortable just because of what she wears. I cannot emphasize this enough. I am trying to argue that this implication is key to this idea of victim blaming that often occurs with sexual harrassment or assault.

I realize that I wasn't clear about sexual harassment. It is a subjective experience more than a definition, and 55 I didn't mean to imply it in that manner. 57 does a better job explaining what I wanted to say. It is a sensitive issue and sometimes the boundaries blur. However, I think it is important for men (and women) to be receptive to the other party's reactions, so that they are not causing pressure or passing a boundary that they shouldn't be crossing. Women, men, transfolk, should receive the treatment and respect they deserve, regardless of what they wear on the outside.

She was wearing jeans and a hoodie. Clearly, such a "skanky" dress, so inappropriate for a family gathering, huh? Only her hands and face were showing! Not even a taliban should find that skanky. It was an easy guess that she wasn't actually dressing skanky, from the way things were worded anyway, but since people have difficulty thinking clearly, luckily the OP showed up and gave more info. So there. jeans and hoodie. Shocking, no?

You must be from a taliban country. She was wearing JEANS AND A HOODIE. The only way she could have covered even more would be if she wore gloves and a sky mask at the table!!