To be fair, small amounts (such as a small glass of wine) once in a while won't do any harm. Definitely agree that mothers-to-be should not be getting drunk at all, but it annoys me when you get the Nazi-mums who go apeshit upon seeing a pregnant woman have a single glass of bucks fizz at a wedding.

Any alcohol in a pregnant woman's system can cause harmful defects in a baby. It doesn't always, but it certainly can. Even a small glass of wine. I hope you never plan on carrying a child with that attitude, 59.

Kind of makes you wonder what the story behind this pregnancy is in the first place. Kids deserve better parents.

Well, there is debate on whether small amounts of alcohol affects the fetus. Some doctors say it's okay to drink occasionally, others say not to drink at all. Some studies have found that children don't seem to be any different (or at least outside the norm) for either. But then again, there are a lot of factors and unknowns that could be playing a part, and you just can't predict the outcome. I feel like the safest route is to not drink at all, and at the very least not during the 1st trimester. Would you give a 3 month old some alcohol?

You can drink a small glass of RED wine a month or so. For it not to have any harmful effects on the fetus it has to be rarely and it has to be red. Some doctors allow mothers to drink one beer a week or so. I personally, never drank anything. I wouldn't want to chance anything.

It's actually fine to have a glass of wine (any kind) once in a while.

in the 60s people didnt even know drinking and smoking throughout pregnancy could cause the side effects that we now know they can cause, I know people who's mothers drank and smoked and they turned out fine. that's not to say people should go around doing it but its not guarenteed you'll have issues with the pregnancy if you do. I however wouldn't want to take the risk

Most women don't know they're pregnant until at least a month in, so if they drink/smoke regularly it happens during that time. I've also been told by two doctors that a beer or glass of wine per week is okay later in the pregnancy, once the baby is mostly developed (not that I would). It's also common practice to not have a woman give up anything she's addicted to cold turkey when she discovers she's pregnant because withdrawal can hurt the baby. Most doctors recommend weening off nicotine over a couple weeks.

Some sources say small amounts are fine and some caution against it, but I can't understand how anyone could risk it in good conscience. I just gave birth a day ago, so I know it isn't hard to give up alcohol for nine months if it means a better chance at a healthier kid.

Congratulations #162!

Thanks Doc! To the people saying they hope I don't have kids, please leave me alone. I make my decisions by actually thinking and researching, not by going along with what some braying horde thinks is the truth.

"Women should be advised that if they choose to drink alcohol while they are pregnant, they should drink no more than 1-2 units of alcohol once or twice a week. There is uncertainty about how much alcohol is safe to drink in pregnancy, but at this low level there is no evidence of any harm to their unborn baby." - NHS

Isn't it rather "She deserve it for being an idiot" ? :)

Or She deserves it for not being on the pill beforehand and then not getting an abortion when she knew she didnt have the father to start a family. Just another waste of life on welfare.

I think it might have gone like this woman: I'm 7 months pregnant you're the daddy op: um what I met you last night? her: you've been passed out for 7 months op: I was in a coma!?! her:yeah I had to face pregnancy alone while you slept op: *checks phone* um no *leaves and updates facebook status to 'some bitched be Cray'* her:*talking to baby* time to find you a new daddy

Cue the kingly clap.

That whole intercourse scam ? Us ladies may use our womanly wiles, but it takes two. More the problem of people who decide to give their "drops of sperm" to said females, who can convince you of being a baby-daddy after a one nighter.

Sounds like the "rabbit died" from that magick hat long ago.

Do newbies take perdix seriously?

Even though Perdix was joking, there are plenty of girls who lie about being on the pill, and then refuse to get an abortion and try to suck you in for child support. I always check to make sure a girl actually has her pill packet on her, and that the pill for the corresponding day is indeed gone. Sad that you cant trust some girls.

who carries their birth control pill packet with them? anyway even birth control is a two way street. personally I'd rather NOT sleep with strangers or anyone I don't know well.