Love: Today, my boyfriend told me he's been having doubts, but he still...

By MissNoFuture - 20/06/2011 07:13 - United States

Today, my boyfriend told me he's been having doubts, but he still wants to stay with me. I asked him why he had been so nervous about us and he replied, "I don't know, just thinking about a future with you makes me feel nauseous". We've been together over 2 years now. FML

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Today, I asked my boyfriend of 3 years what he thought about marriage in the future. "Who knows? We might meet other people soon." FML

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Today, my boyfriend doesn't know if he should break up with me because he loves me too much, or to stay with me and make me suffer. I have no clue as to what's going on in his head. FML

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By Anonymous - 23/06/2021 13:59

Today, I was in the car with my boyfriend. After telling him how much I loved him, he asked me to marry him. When I said yes and started crying, he said he wasn't sure if he really wants to get married. FML

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marcyfrances 4

Monday 20 June 2011 15:49

you obviously need to get out of this relationship, don't marry unless your in love.

CraneTG 0

Monday 20 June 2011 15:53

He might not have meant that a future with YOU makes him feel that way, but in general the idea of spending his future with SOMONE that makes him nervous. Kind of normal to have doubts when it comes to that kind of decisions. But hey I might be wrong so in that case yea FYL

Comments

cradle6 13

Monday 20 June 2011 19:35

18-Honestly, you have no idea what you're talking about half the time. For this FML, OP needs to relax. 2 years is not a long time by any means, and furthermore, chances are they're pretty young. He doesn't want to rush into a marriage (which is a good thing) and has normal doubts about entering into a lifetime commitment (or what is supposed to be a lifetime commitment). OP, stop worrying about marriage right now. Just enjoy your time with your boyfriend and see where your life takes you. 2 years is a small amount of time, and you are probably still pretty young. If you were 35, then you might want to start making those big lifelong decisions. The divorce rate is sky high, and I would say that is (at least) largely because people are getting married at 21 and even younger just so they can say "Oh I'm married" and they assume all their problems are solved once they do get married. And now I expect several responses all the lines of "MY PARENTS STARTED DATING AT AGE 7 AND THEY HAVE BEEN TOGETHER 150 YEARS." Anecdotal evidence doesn't count here. divorce rate is 50%.

deviable 9

Monday 20 June 2011 19:42

It's actually really normal for someone to get nervous about the idea of commitment. if he's serious about being with you then he'll get over it, if not, then it won't work out. But please don't dump him because if it, at least not until you're sure he won't get better.

DjeePee 24

Monday 20 June 2011 19:50

And you say I don't know what I'm talking about? Your post is all about marriage, whilst that has nothing, absolutely nothing, to do with this FML. OP's boyfriend is doubting about their relationship, not a friggin' marriage, and yes, I understand completely that the OP doesn't like the knowledge that her partner isn't entirely sure of their relationship. That's not pleasant to hear, whether you are 2 years or 22 years in a relationship.

Darkness_Hate 29

Monday 20 June 2011 20:12

Wait a while then tell him to choose between staying with you or not. Simple as that...and if you're young, thats not a problem you'll find someone who will be serious.