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Maybe the fact that the love of his life just turned him down?

Better that than say yes and start cheating as soon as she finds someone she's interested in.

49- I completely agree with you. I would be so heartbroken if that happened to me!

it doesn't mean that he's single, it just means that his girlfriend isn't ready to get married. its not like she broke up with him, although it will be awkward to face her now...

Haha. Him and the ring... Wait...

True not every girl but I would have been upset if mine wasn't a surprise. I didn't want to know. So you can't say they deserve it. Because that's a very hard thing to judge.

Talking about marriage =/= the proposal not being a surprise.

I agree with 105. Also 98, I would hope that by the time a man proposes to a woman, he knows her well enough to know if she does or doesn't like surprises. Maybe op's girlfriend was just uncomfortable with the situation, or wants time to discuss marriage and think about her answer. A no isn't always definitive; sometimes it only means "not yet".

U sound like a bitter man hater

202, I can't for the life of me figure out who you are talking to. Not one comment in this thread is bitter or anti-men.

That's a bit harsh. I know a lot of women like cute proposals. If the problem was the method of proposing, then why did his brother get a yes? I don't think that that was the problem. The only problem with them both proposing at the same time is it might make the other proposal less cheerful when one says no. Then again it does make for a cute story, possibly. > propose "wtf why didn't you make it special" > find way of proposing that is unique and special "wtf you made the proposal about something other than us" > propose on a train-bridge during a rainstorm as a train is crossing the bridge with a full moon above and rose petals all over the bridge and the river under the bridge is sparkling from the moon / rain drops and fireworks are going off spelling out "Will you marry me?" in the sky "okay, but that was the bare minimum needed for a proposal"

Actually, 51 has a point. We don't know WHY op's girlfriend said no. Maybe the other girlfriend found the proposal cute, or didn't care how her man proposed, so she said yes. Maybe op's girlfriend, on the other hand, DID want a private proposal. Maybe she needed time to discuss marriage before making a huge, lifelong commitment. You can't spring a life-changing question on someone who is unprepared and expect an affirmative response.

Not all women are the same. His brother might have gotten a yes because hi girlfriend thought it was cute but the OP's girlfriend thought it was awkward and weird. The proposal could easily be the problem, even if the brother's girlfriend said yes.

I agree with Calyx. Despite my love for my boyfriend, I would decline if he proposed this way. Really, imho, this proposal is more lame than cute. It's not romantic, it's not intimate... it seems to me that the OP was more thinking about his perfect synchronization instead of how his partner would react.

Good sentiment, I've noticed how most of the women feel so sorry for a "lost" love of his life. Obviously she wasn't the love of his life or she would have said yes. Women getting caught in the drama of the moment, not looking at the reality of the situation