-.- It's very common for couples to wake each other up by doing something sexual. Obviously just jamming a finger up there without any foreplay doesn't sound very appealing but who knows, maybe some people like that. It's entirely possible that OP and her boyfriend do this often, it just so happened that this time didn't go well because he was drunk. My boyfriend often wakes me up by going down on me and, although I technically don't consent because I'm asleep, it is in no way sexual assault.

So he is a serial killer because he was trying to wake up his girl by playing with her?? I do that alot with my wife and never once have I killed anyone.

That's a very common misconception. There is absolutely nothing dangerous about sleeping with a tampon in and if there was they wouldn't sell them. You get TSS if you have your tampon for extremely long like 18 hours or something crazy like that. Also, I don't think the boyfriend did anything wrong. They're together and he was trying to do something nice. She never said she objected him fingering her, it just didn't work out well

Totally agree with #74. If you sleep with a tampon in for, say, 8 hours how is that in any way different from wearing a tampon for 8 hours during the day? And loads of couples enjoy waking each other up in a fun/sexy way from time to time. There's nothing "serial killer" about it.

He was ******* DRUNK do people not understand this?!

^Nope. To consent is, by definition, to "give permission for something to happen." And... you can't give permission if you're asleep (unless you did so beforehand with the explicit idea of "yes, it is ok for them to do [thing] to me when I am asleep".)

you said "if she didn't object, feel uncomfortable, or like he was doing something wrong, then she consented" but then you continued to say "she determines whether she consented or not"...

how the **** do you know if she didn't give permission? since the FML didn't say "my boyfriend raped me and I had a tampon in", it's pretty obvious she gave consent beforehand

^The fact that the OP, as far as we can tell, seems okay after the fact with the sex act performed on her (if not ok with the tampon-related consequences) does not mean that adequate care was taken on her partner's part in obtaining consent beforehand. What if things had turned out differently? If it had turned out that she was very not ok with having sex things done to her in her sleep - and many people aren't, as some in this comments section confirm -he wouldn't have known that until it was too late.

All the current stuff about consent is meant to give people more control over their body and the right to feel safe. If the OP still feels safe and in control (if rather irritated), surely telling her she shouldn't is a step backwards?

Consent means "yes" not a lack of "no". For ***** sake. Apply that to something else. "You don't say I couldn't pierce your ears while you were asleep, so I did nothing wrong." "You never stopped me drawing dicks on you, so you consented to it!" Stop acting like a child trying to avoid punishment. "No one told me I wasn't supposed to draw on the wall." Ugh.

Lots of people find pads very uncomfortable to sleep in, and cups aren't for everyone.

And I feek uncomfortable when I just think, when tampon can't absorb more blood and it has to be still inside till I wake up and change. Before my first kid I had very heavy flow and I found maternity pads were very comfortable at night