By ApparentlyNotEno - 05/06/2013 20:40 - United States - Martinsburg

Today, my fiancée told me that she wants us to have an open marriage. She reasons that since she doesn't equate sex with love, there's no logical reason for me to be against her having sex with other people. FML
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ApparentlyNotEno 28

OP here. We've actually had a threesome together and loved it. But she specifically wants to be with other men without me there.

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enterthedragon97 1

actually the worst fml I've seen today, my condolences

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worldclassrager 39

Now since you know about the affair/starting affair break it off...

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Meliavi 0

Being poly does not mean shes a *****, for all the ppl that want to talk shit on the woman he loves. If she was a ***** she would've just gone behind his back to **** other ppl but she asked him. Honestly I wish my husband was ok with it too but hes in the same boat as this poor guy.

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xXNerrrdXx 16

well yeaaaaa then w.e we said goes on you too...

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Emily062611 6

I agree it doesn't make her a ***** - it might just make her incompatible with OP. I think it would make me uncomfortable if my husband asked for an open marriage. I'm honestly too jealous and can't imagine being with anyone but him. How do you move on from knowing your spouse wants to be open?

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amifaiyaz 12

There's nothing wrong with what she's asking for if you are OK with it, a lot of people do open marriages.

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davikiin 6

I think the implication is that he's not okay with it, that's why it's an fml.

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Drifting 21

Hey, you must have known her stand point on this before now, so you have two options, leave now, or come to terms with it.

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davikiin 6

This is entirely inaccurate. He would have no way of knowing without her stating it.

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ApparentlyNotEno 28

OP here. No, I had no idea for more than a year and a half. It wasn't until I proposed that she brought it up.

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Jemm_fml 29

Did you leave OP? :/ sorry this happened to you.

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ApparentlyNotEno 28

No, we're going to counseling. She feels like shit that she's hurting me, and I'm bleeding like a stuck pig inside. We truly love each other, we just have different ideas of what marriage should be that didn't come out before now. Hopefully we can figure out a way to make it through.

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Drifting 21

Well man, sounds like the two of you are doing the right thing going to counseling. Hope you two figure it out sooner then later.

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SuzyTurquoiseBlu 25

I know I'm going to get some negative comments here... But usually I hear the other way around, that the guy wants to sleep with anything with two arms, two legs, a heartbeat and genitalia. Sometimes women are like that too and they are equally as bad. I think that this ruffles a few feathers because publicly, this isn't as common. All the same OP, leave her. She isn't partner material, let alone wife material and you don't need to be worried where she is, and worried about what diseases she comes home with.

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rockydify 22

Sounds like she does love you and is communicative enough to ask you. You need to have an open and honest talk with her, and if you do decide to go ahead with the marriage, set some ground rules. As a number have said, open relationship can work and are not uncommon.

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Coeliacchic93 21

Shouldn't she have told him by now though, I'd think I'd wanna know if my partner though sex was meaningless and wanted to sleep with others. In my personal opinion when my boyfriend and I make love, it means a lot, there is obviously more to a relationship than just that but it still means something and I can even imagine physically being with anyone else. I understand she has other views (and its okay to be different) but shouldn't OP have known before he loved her enough to want to commit to marriage?

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drstevew 3

Is she a looker? If so can I meet her :p

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ApparentlyNotEno 28

OP here. **** you. Find your own. Insensitive ass.

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imtooshy 18

Run like the wind so you don't end up with an S.T.D as a wedding gift.

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shonyly 2

To me, she has ALREADY cheated on him. She did not find out this just from reflexion but from experience.

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monnanon 13

why would she tell him if she was already getting away with cheating?

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davikiin 6

A) not every one gets bored. Some people are just ***** craving social acceptance. B) my wife waited for three years of marriage to drop that shit on me. We'll see how this shit turns out.

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