By ApparentlyNotEno - 05/06/2013 20:40 - United States - Martinsburg

Today, my fiancée told me that she wants us to have an open marriage. She reasons that since she doesn't equate sex with love, there's no logical reason for me to be against her having sex with other people. FML
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ApparentlyNotEno 28

OP here. We've actually had a threesome together and loved it. But she specifically wants to be with other men without me there.

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enterthedragon97 1

actually the worst fml I've seen today, my condolences

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catsie_fml 14

get outta there

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xkncas 8

I'm in an open relationship, myself. Personally: I think it's better than just one person--as long as her feelings don't get misplaced/displaced amongst someone, or many ones, else. You would still be part of the open part and able to sleep with anyone you wanted--just make sure you also don't put feelings where they belong...keep love and sex completely separate. Maybe she'll get jealous of the other women you are having sex with and say "enough is enough" and you'll get your monogamy back.

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pedinhuh 23

that a good thing to know before signing the marriage papers... ..at least, its better than signing the divorce papers!

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strangeite 4

Some people do have open marriages, and for some people sex really is a separate thing from love. However, if you're not comfortable with that it's obviously a deal breaker

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devourerofbooks 10

Aren't these the type of questions you ask during dates before proposing? Idk if its because I'm in the life style where things like this would crop up more or what but seriously? Isn't this something that should be talked about?

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ApparentlyNotEno 28

I am open to anything she wants to do TOGETHER to spice up our sex life. But she wants this alone and says she won't be able to get what she needs if I'm around during, and she's known that that's not okay with me for some time. She's absolutely unwilling to compromise. I don't judge her for wanting it, some people are just built that way, and I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with it. But it is absolutely not for me, and she knows that and wants me to change my mind.

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devourerofbooks 10

Ah ok. Yeah. It's not my thing. I wouldn't be comfortable with it. I don't judge people who do enjoy open relationships. But why make is tough for you in trying to change your mind. It's obvious she loves you but it seems she can't come to terms to sticking to one person. But I'm sure as a couple you'll work things out.

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devourerofbooks 10

I wish you lots of luck. Hopefully she won't resort to being unfaithful to get what she wants. Not say she will but its something to be wary of. Friends of mine were in an open relationship. The girl wasn't too thrilled with it but she tried it out and for a while it was ok until they mutually broke it off because she would have preferred a more monogamous relationship. Now she engaged and moved to PA. So it worked out in the end. No hard feelings.

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Shleebs 12

Major red flag. If she's not already sleeping with other people, she will be.

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Headcrab 29

With good rules I don't see why this is doomed to fail. You'd have to get used to it, but it could work. I'm not saying I would allow it, but I don't see how this is guaranteed to fail.

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davikiin 6

Not guaranteed to fail except that op dislikes this idea enough to post it as an fml.

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someguy314159265 15

I've never understood why people still get married in this day and age, anyway.

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monnanon 13

social pressure. it gets everyone in the end :s

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EspyPsyche 11

Ask her if it's okay for you to have sex with other girls. If her answer is yes, stay with her. If it's no, leave her. If she's truly into the whole open marriage thing, she'll approve. If she's just playing the poly card to get an excuse to cheat on you, she'll say no.

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azisles02 17

Sounds like either A: she's a sex addict or B: she's looking for a way out in the future. If it's B, then maybe the future is now.

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