no, it's not ....

No... If they are like 12, but no older than 14... Early 20's?? Damn it, still not ok to go 3 YEARS without sex

lol thats mean.

Wow, wait a minute, do you really say that it's OP's fault that his girlfriend is a cheating scumbag? I agree that it's weird to don't have sex in a relationship, especially after three years (eventhough there are more people outside who like abstinence, OP isn't the only one), but having sex is a decision of both partners. For me, it's obvious that OP and his girlfriend agreed in abstinence, so it's a jerk move that she cheated on him. If you can't handle the abstinence anymore - which I completely can understand - talk with your partner about it. But nooo, she decided to have a dirty little secret without (a good use of) contraception. This is definitely not OP's fault. And you sound like a real mature guy to me. Dumping a girlfriend if she don't want sex after 6 months, ffs...

If she doesn't want sex for over 6 months and she's over 20, I guess that she is too religious or frigid or something. Either way, I don't think it would be a great relationship without sex or with a minimal amount of sex on a long run. Btw, my last sentence was that she is definitely a bitch for cheating on him, but not completely her fault.

Bwoah, it all depends whether she's a virgin or not. It's hard to wait with sex if you have already experienced it, but if you love someone, you should always be able to wait. That being said, I mostly agree with your idea about relationships and sex, but I disagree with your last sentence. It IS completely her fault. If she didn't told OP and cheated, it's her fault. If she told it, and he disagreed, it's her fault for cheating at him instead of dumping him.

there are 2...not 1...but 2 people involved in a relationship. did the gf handle it in a morally sound way? no, worst part is it was obviously not safe - only hurt herself. but NO SEX FOR 3 YEARS?

maybe they're "too young" to have sex. or the guy could have taken a vow.

You know what they say about assuming details.

It makes an ass out of me and you?

Yup ok it's her fault. But she clearly wanted to have sex, so it appears he didn't. I can't believe she didn't try to have sex with the OP before cheating on him, so I guess she had 3 choices: a) dump him b) cheating on him c) not having sex. Choosing B makes her a bitch, but it's still not _only_ her fault, because the other 2 choices are crappy too. She had to make a choice out of 3 bad ones. Btw I'm a guy, it would be easier to say 'all girls are *****', but I'm trying to be objective...

@52 i thumbed you down for the last line. theres nothing wrong with ending a relationship for lack of sex, just as theres nothing wrong with ending one for the opposite reason. you have your threshold, they have theirs. neither is wrong.

I have to agree with 65 here... I have had sex, but my boyfriend has not. While right now it's still a rather new relationship, I wouldnt last 3 years. So I don't blame the girl for wanting sex during those three years, but cheating was not the way to go