i dont think a man or woman cheats on there husband purely for the sex aspect. if that was case every single person would cheat on the partner every time any 'problem' came up... rather than trying to sort out the issue

Get real, if a person (man or woman) is satisfied at home, then they have NO reason and will not cheat. Therefor, his/her needs were not being met at home.

28, is it the same for women? or is female satisfaction not important in your world?

If the guys not being satisfied he needs to say something to his wife/girlfriend or whatever. Not go cheat on them. They cheat cause they're lazy assholes who clearly can't take time to work things out in the bedroom with their significant others. Either that or they think they're a gift to the world and should be able to have sex with whoever they want, relationship or not.

I NEVER said that it was RIGHT for him to cheat, just that the reason he cheated was because his needs were not being met at home. Learn to COMPREHEND a comment before firing off a snide comment.

Isn't it always the "mans" fault?

Lets say for the sake of argument that husband "A" has a high sex drive. Wife "A" doesn't. Husband "A" has told his wife on numerous occasions that he is not getting enough sex. Wife "A" doesn't want sex therefore doesn't care to give her husband more sex. Wife "A"'s exact words are "deal with it" what is husband "A" suppose to do to satisfy himself? Really I want to know...umm for a friend, yeah a friend.

She has no obligation to **** him whenever he wants. It is in no way her fault. If he is not satisfied, he should either suck it up and accept or leave the relationship.

Not true at all. An old friend of mine loved his wife, his children, his life and was completely satisfied with his sex life. Then an old girlfriend from twenty years ago added him on facebook. After months of messaging, the likes of which turned flirty, they met when she was in town for work. He cheated on his wife a lot that week., He told me himself that no matter how happy his wife made him, nothing would've stopped him sleeping with the beautiful woman with whom he had a past. Some men are just plain arseholes who don't appreciate everything good that's right in front of them. Same goes for women. Furthermore, my sex drive is MUCH higher than my partners is, who is twenty-four years my senior. I love him deeply and while it can be frustrating, i'd never give up what we have for sex. Even he tells me that I'm the adult in the relationship. He acts like someone my own age. Great - you've served in the army. You've seen a lot and done a lot that not everyone could do. However, choosing a career path outwith the military does not define a persons contributions to the world. I would not choose a military career because I've done my research and want no part in this war, because I could not live with blood on my hands should I take a life, I want to be a mother that is around for her children one day. That is the life I choose. I have many military friends and while I respect them for it, Id never want that lifestyle for myself - whether I was scared of it or not. Lastly, yes, you have been through a lot and have reason to be depressed. As do a lot of people. I was sexually abused for years - I lost my virginity at six years old and spent most of my adolescence in mental health services. Now I am building a positive life for myself. Your "holier than thou" attitude does you no favours, neither does your ignorance or condescension towards younger peoples or people outwith the armed forces. You are not above everyone and you are not completely right in this instance.

Tons of women's heads in the clouds here lol

Maybe it's just some of the wrong people are the lucky ones to get a relationship :|

Yes, it is partially his fault, because he is not meeting ALL her needs or she wouldn't cheat. What I am saying is simply this, if ALL a persons needs (man or woman) are met at home then they won't cheat. The ONLY reason people cheat is to fulfill a need that isn't being fulfilled at home(real or perceived).

#38 - I'll hand it to you for "real or perceived," however if it happens to be a perception of OP's husband's (or any potential cheater), then there is no way that OP could have known she isn't satisfying her husband without him saying something; therefore she may not deserve it for certain (by the logic you've presented).

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