Been in "love" with since the 8th grade? Obsessive much?

He obviously does not love you back. I've had friends like you who HAVE spoken up. My boyfriend was in no way attracted to them and knowing that a friend was pinning over him made it awkward. If he wanted you, he would've hit on you, not your friend. Do NOT speak up. Let them be happy. If they aren't meant to be and it doesn't work out for them, THEN you can see if he even feels the same. But hitting on your BEST FRIEND'S HUSBAND would kind of make you a bitch.

Your fault. You could have tried to tell him you loved him. It's kind of pathetic you have loved a guy since you were in eighth grade and not only did you never tell him but even when he moved on you didn't. Loser.

you should've given him head at his bachelor party you dumb skeet!

aaaw. I just think this is sad :( and dont listen to people blaming you because maybe you did speak up or maybe you knew him before your friend, etc. they don't know the whole situation.

Oh hun, *eighth grade*? You need to find someone else to have a crush on. I don't even have the same haircut as I did in eighth grade.

did she even know

8th grade? You kinda deserve it or waiting like 10 friggin years.

Did either of them have any idea? (And goddammit, answer me. I'm sick of asking questions about FMLs and the OP never responding.)

Let's make sure I've got this right... you've been in love with him since the eighth grade. Your age isn't listed, but presumably he and your best friend didn't get hitched in high school. That means, BARE MINIMUM, you've been crushing on him for four years. Four years is a long time to be this obsessed with someone who clearly does not feel the same way. Did you tell him, did you hint to him that you had feelings for him? If so, clearly he rejected you, and it's unhealthy to continue this obsession. If not, still, it's clear he doesn't feel the same way about you as you do about him, or he wouldn't have chosen another woman. I'm also guessing that the two of them didn't just decide to get married on a whim - they probably dated for a while first. Which means that you've been in love with your best friend's man for a while. Did you talk to her about it? If so, she's one hell of a terrible friend for asking you to be Maid of Honor knowing how you feel, but you could have said "no." If not, can you really say that she's your best friend? After hiding something like this from her, you still claim to be friends with her? Point being, you deserve it. Stop pining over a man who obviously loves someone else. Think about what kind of friend you are being by staying obsessed with the boyfriend, then fiance, then husband of the woman that you claim is your best friend. Would YOU want to be friends with a woman like that? Get over it, and if you can't, then suck it up and tell your friend the truth. She'll be mad, but if she's really your best friend, she'll help you find a new guy. Maybe next time, you'll be able to approach things in a more mature fashion.