Let's ignore for the moment where 16 and 14 are significantly different chemically and mentally. Just because they've been together for five years doesn't mean that she was in love with this guy for the entire time. All it really means is that she fell in love with him over time. You know, the way normal people do it. And if you're using Romeo and Juliet as your example of true love or whatever, you *really* need a reality check. Or to read Romeo and Juliet, because it's possible you just don't know the play. If she really did make her feelings known, and she really thought it was an FML-worthy thing to give the toast, she wouldn't have been giving it, really. Assuming she made her feelings known and never bothered to get over this guy when he rejected her, no *best* friend would be upset if you said you couldn't do a toast because of your feelings. As for your personal situation, I've been in a very similar situation as yours. I got out of it. What did I learn? It wasn't love, it was just a pretty bad infatuation. Real love came along later. I probably won't stay with this person for the rest of my life, but I do know that I love em and that ey really taught me what love is. Trust me, I don't care what you think, you don't know true love until it's reciprocated.

We won't really know, because of the lack of details in the FML, but this seems less likely to be a "I told him before and got rejected" situation and more of a "I have liked him since 8th grade but never told him" situation. If she HAD told him and gotten rejected, then I'm surprised he still went out with her best friend and that the OP was still the maid of honor and that he and the OP didn't have some sort of conversation that at least attempted to sort out these awkward feelings. Lack of details

While most here say that love while 18 and under is infatuation, it can and does happen. I was 15, a month or so shy of 16, when I first fell in love. Today we are still together, married since I turned 18, and 2 kids. I may love him more now, but just because of shared circumstances. It is the same love as the beginning, just more developed. We didn't exchange " I love you's" until several months in, and not long after I felt it appropriate to lose my virginity to him. We met in 1994 by the way. Never have I regretted not dating more or having devoted such a large percentage of my life to one person. I also know several other married couples who attended prom together. So, while it might be unusual to fall in "true love" as a teen, it is most definitely possible. OP: Your situation sucks, but if you have not already done so, telling them now would only give you more heartbreak by losing your friendships and possibly causing dischord in their marriage. Mourn for what you could have had and try to move on. You will find the right guy for you, but only if you set yourself free of the crush and see each new guy for who and what they are as opposed to who and what they aren't. Good Luck 

I agree with #49.

well for one thing, Romeo and Juliet were never in love. Just throwing that out there, they were in lust. Romeo was on the rebound (just been rejected) and Juliet wanted out of an arranged marriage. They were both young and hot stuff, so why the hell not? That's not love. That's "oh you're hot and I'm feeling rebellious" and "oh you're pretty and I'm feeling lonely, let's bang" and then they call it love. It's supposed to poke fun at the idea of people so young mistaking physical attraction for love, because when we're 14, THAT'S WHAT WE DO. for another, if she made a move and got rejected, then yeah, it sucks, but you know what? She's not the only person it's ever happened to. Shocker, I know. It's happened to me, and it's going to happen to me again, but am I sitting around and moping about it? no, I'm not, because all that does is make me incapable of moving on, and all it does is hold me back. I'm not saying that she has to be happy that the guy she's supposedly "in love with" doesn't feel the same, but really? Get over it. I've been in a sort of similar situation too. No, they're not getting married, seeing as we're all still, you know, in our teenage years. And no, I wasn't "in love" with him, and I recognize that. Two of my best friends though. I liked him and he liked her and I knew he liked her and he knew I liked him. And you know what I did? I HELPED THEM GET TOGETHER. do you know why? Because I'm a good friend and I want to see my friends happy, even if it means I don't necessarily get what I want. Because seeing my friends happy DOES make me happy. A lot happier than I could be if I got what I wanted and saw that one of my best friends was upset over it. If her BEST FRIEND and the man she supposedly loves are getting married, she should be happy for them. And, if she really loves him as much as she says she does, she should be putting his happiness before her own. This is the man she loves; if he were to spend his life with someone he doesn't love, when he could have had that person, he would be miserable. So, what, would she rather spend her life with someone that she's INFATUATED WITH, even though they're miserable, while her BEST FRIEND watches from the side? Or would she rather see two people that she apparently cares a lot for (even though she has a really funny way of showing it) happy, while she can go and find someone to make her happy, since apparently she won't be complete unless she finds a man? I know I'm being ranty and harsh. But this is life. Not a fairytale. It's not Disney. It's not a movie. It's not a story. It's real life now, and things don't always just magically work out for everyone. People end up sad. People end up angry. People end up alone or feeling incomplete. People die. People live and they laugh and they dance and they sing and they cry and they yell and they scream and they fight and then die and they breathe and they experience life if they let themselves. So yeah, she's the girl on the side. And yeah, it sucks that she doesn't get the man that she wants. But she's only looking on the bad side of it, and that's her problem. And don't get me wrong. It's not that I don't believe in love. I do. I'm just more of a realistic romantic (or romantic realist?) than a romantic. (;

Well said, #44 *like*

Get a life.

Couldn't have said it better myself, #57.

Ya please grow up. Since the 8th grade you haven't moved on?