#2 you watch way too many romance movies. here is the breakdown, for you, OP. man up and tell her now, right now...as you read this. seriously...go. if not, lose her forever. potentially. most people end up marrying the wrong person for them, anyways. don't let her be one of 'em.

well man, i can only imagine how it feels, but the least you can is at least be happy for her, maybe you'll find the right one and decide that your just better off friends with her.

make a chick flick out of it...

aw, that sucks. just try to enjoy the free flight

don't feel too bad. i told my european friend i was in love with him and now he doesn't talk to me anymore. just try to sabotage it quietly.

You shoulda made your move.

ooooooooooooooooooooh!

shoulda told her u loved her b4 she got a fiance

Is this not the plot of Made of Honor?

#54 - How would he be ethically in the clear? Married or not - breaking up a relationship of any sorts still makes you a homewrecker. And that's only IF she reciprocates the feelings, which is unlikely. But even if she doesn't - even attempting to break up a happy relationship because you need to make YOURSELF feel resolved doesn't make it right. How would telling her not be "really" trying to break it up?? Everyone saying that the OP should just tell her is missing out on one important factor - HER feelings. Do you really think she wants to sit around for the two weeks before her wedding, when she's already probably stressed to the max, thinking about this? Since she likely isn't in love with you back, as evidenced by her impending marriage, she's going to feel even worse knowing that she hurt her "good friend's" feelings - the last thing she needs to be considering two weeks before she gets married! Regardless of how much the OP tries to brush it off if she denies him, she's still going to know that she broke his heart. I had a good friend do this to me after I'd been in a relationship for a few years with someone, and all it did was ruin everything - because even though we agreed to remain friends, my boyfriend (ex now) was always wary of that friend's motives (which added stress to the relationship), and no one who is ever truly in love with someone is able to put that aside, so the friendship was strained. The friend and I hardly even speak anymore, and I sincerely doubt he looks back at that and is happy he decided to spill. Unless she has ever given you any sign that she needs some sort of "out" from her current relationship, do NOT tell her. But if you must - do tell her before you go, it's beyond rude to make her pay for a trip like that (which her fiance is likely pitching in for as well), when your intentions are to cause turmoil.