been there, done that. it's best if you dump the bitch because you aren't getting anywhere near her goods anytime soon, if ever, for that matter

I agree with #28, she obviously values your friendship and maybe she'll have different feelings for you later? feelings change...so don't lose her as a friend, just be there for her and if it was meant to be, it will be. :)

I think you caught her off-guard and she was trying to avoid the topic with humor. I would give this some time. She knew what you meant and she will be thinking about it.

now all you have to do is wait for her to turn into a lesbian and you're there.

Advice: get out of the friend zone. Don't be a tool My fiance and I were best friends before we dated, and we had everything to lose by dating. I knew one day he would be the perfect husband and father to someone, but I wasn't that attracted to him and I didn't want to ruin our friendship. I knew he would always love me and adore me. He convinced me to take a chance with him, and I did. He is now my absolute best friend, lover, and the love of my life. Attraction can grow. It doesn't have to be instant. Love can grow. I never thought I'd fall in love with a guy friend. EVER. My fiance, when we were friends, got out of the friend zone by standing up for me in high school. His friends were making fun of me to my face, and he came over to me, hugged me, stepped in front of me and told his guy friends that they were tools who were pissed because they would never get a girl as beautiful and amazing as me. He told them to stop acting like such insecure a$$holes. Trust me, he was seen in a different light for me after that! He would take time out of his day to hang out with me (and be my shoulder to cry on if needed), and he actually listened to me. and then we went on a date. And that was that! I'm not saying imitate my experiences. It may never work out for you, and you just have to trust that if it doesn't there's something better out there for you. Just keep being her friend. Maybe someday she'll wake up. Girls go after guys who aren't good for them. Only after they've been shat on a few times will they realize that they need a real man who cares about them. Have patience. She may just be preparing herself for a relationship with you.

Whatever you do, don't cold-shoulder her. One of my friends was put in the exact same situation, except she was the girl--the guy wouldn't talk to her, she was absolutely devastated and trust me when I say it did NOT help that guy get any. If she's not ready, SHE'S NOT READY, and making her miss you DOESN'T HELP. People can miss brothers and best friends just as sorely as lovers--simply moving away won't make her see the light. I would recommend retain the best-friend-forever-and-a-day position, because that is one of the best positions from which to take the next step--if you get there and stick solid, your relationship will be far better for it. Of course, I don't know your situation, so take what I say with a grain of salt--but seriously, cold-shouldering is a really bad option. If you need to move away, doing that COULD give her some time to realise what she had--but it could also achieve the exact same results as just distancing yourself from her (read: zero)--try your gut for advice. (But take that with a grain of salt too.) Also, #60--that's a lovely story. I'm really happy for you and your fiance and wish you all the best. Dang, why is a romantic sap like me even hanging around a site like this? xD

@61: "I would recommend retain the best-friend-forever-and-a-day position, because that is one of the best positions from which to take the next step." Seriously, that's NOT the case most of the time, and I wouldn't want to get anyone's hopes by claiming this. Generally, once someone is into "I love you as my best friend" territory, there will never be anything more than that. It can and does happen, but I wouldn't put any bets on it. If nothing relationship-like or intimate has happened by the time one is a best friend, odds are very good that it won't. Feelings and chemistry are odd beasts.

Do you share bras and panties as well? Ya little bitch.

hey man I know how that it is. trust me. Im in the twelfth grade right now and have known this girl since i was in third. I have had a crush on her since and just proclaimed how i felt to her. "your awesome to hang out with and really funny i want to be just friends though" she likes some other guy. and the other guy doesnt like her. truest me it can be worse. at least theres some hope for ya man :) me. theres none. zilch. nada. zip. zero. etc etc. hang in there man and maybe she will come around :)

I think she likes you. that's what girls say when they like a guy or whatout even knowing they like the guy, they say you're like a brother figure or a best girl friend.