This happened to me - my best friend of three years told me he was completely in love with me, and at first I didn't feel the same way at all. I hadn't seen him in a while because we are at different colleges, and I was afraid that things would be really awkward between us when we both went back home, or that he wouldn't want to be friends anymore if I didn't return his feelings. Turns out, I'm in love with him too, it just took his confession and a little time hanging out with him when I knew how he felt to make me realize it. Trust me, it's very possible for her to change her mind, and even if she doesn't I'm sure your friendship means the world to her, so don't lose that.

girl here. you can't just beat yourself over not telling her, wanting it to go back to the way it was. but she really might not have thought of you that way before, and now it's in the back of her head and won't go away. give her a little time. hang out in groups with her, but not really one-on-one until she initiates it. maybe go out with the guys and have fun, or out with another girl. let her see that you are in demand and still a catch. sometimes girls just need that first thought to recognize something they've been burying for awhile. and if that doesn't work, then she's probably not good for you anyways. good luck.

I think she was making an indirect gay joke...sry- at least she was honest ,though...lol

I don't know why people keep making this out to be the girl's fault. Ultimately, the issue lies with the poster and not his friend. *He* is the one harboring feelings and being misleading about them. *He* is the one being deceitful toward what he actually wants. This isn't being a "nice guy" -- this is being a liar. Like #29 said, if you present yourself as a friend, you will only ever be a friend. For some reason a lot of guys think that relationships have to develop from friendships. This isn't the case, and I'd say most of the time this doesn't work out -- the dudes usually get locked in the friend zone long before anything happens and they'll never make it out. Relationships come most often from dating. Attraction from both sides must be present for a relationship to work out, and feelings from both sides must be put on the table. It's possible to love someone without being attracted to them, and this is the case of good friends. The friend zone is a terrible place to be if you think you're in love with someone. Odds are this won't end well for the OP. The question is which is the proper course of action... 1) Don't ever tell her show he feels. This keeps the friendship intact but he will never truly be happy. When she finds a boyfriend he will probably get depressed and feel really shitty for a long time. 2) Tell her how he feels. This *may* work out for the better, but the odds are slim to none. Odds are this will just make the friendship feel awkward to her, and she'll cut him off. Ugh. Friend zone. Worst thing ever. Been there, done that, don't ever want to be there again. D:

...watch the movie 'just friends' basically exactly the same thing.

Its possible to get out of the friendzone. The guy that I like right now totally used to be just a friend, and I never could have thought of him as otherwise. Granted, once I finally realized how much I liked him he had moved on, but still. Its possible to get out. Don't give up hope, man.

i feel your pain man. friend zone sucks!...

Aw, wow that sucks, I've had the same thing happen. FYL FML

it's all over

Dude, I know exactly how you feel. I live with that every day. Somehow, over the past few years, I acquired three best, female friends who refuse to think of me as anything else other than a friend.